What type of father/mother have you grown up with ect.

What type of father have you grown up with? How it affects your relationship today:

Is your boyfriend a true copy of your father - or is he just the opposite? The vast majority of women choose men who somehow resemble their father. How does your old man affect your love life?

Is your boyfriend like your father ?

Isn't it funny that they both are so much into birds? Or that they are both workaholics, skaters, fast-paced or ...? "As a starting point we reflect the relationship with our father in an infinity in relation to our lovers,". But don't worry: Nobody says you can't live happily with a copy of your dad.

We have made a guide, where you can learn how to avoid going hand in hand with daddy for the rest of your life, and how you best utilize the luggage you have received from home.

Find the type of vessel you grew up with below, and see how it affects your love life.

1. The absent father
He who was always at work, playing football or out with the boys. Your father was rarely present and when he was finally there, he buried himself behind the newspaper and did not chose you. Or maybe he didn't live with you at all.

Are you looking for the father you never got? Maybe you find it hard to find a boyfriend because you are afraid of being disappointed (again)? You lack a male role model in your life and therefore it is unclear to you, what the man's role in the family really is. You and your mother did just fine without him. You tend to quickly give up on a relationship when it begins to become difficult. The easiest for you is therefore to find a man who is not really present. Either because he works too much or because he is hard to get close to emotionally.

You are afraid to let him get close to you, because you risk losing him again. Instead of complaining about being absent, you should ask yourself: Can you do more to let him in ? Practice saying what you feel and want - even when you risk being hurt.

2. The dominant father
In your childhood home, your father was sovereign, who had his pants on. It was he who made all the decisions: What to see in television, when you were supposed to be home, after a city tour and what to eat for dinner.

If you have a great love for the gym's raw bad boys, you can safely blame your father's origin. His dominant behavior has made you attracted to the overly masculine and dominant types. Unknowingly you fall for them because they reprecent your ability to learn to ask for what you want and to say no - but unless you are aware of your pattern, you end up copying your mother's role and letting him tumble all over you.

You have to work with: You've got used to hide sides of your personality that your father diden´t liked. Therefore, there is a part of yourself, that you do not know very well: the ugly and the loud woman, who is complaining and screaming. But she's in there somewhere, and she needs to get out once in a while. It may well be, that your boyfriend gets annoyed at first, but in the long run, he will have more respect for you when he experiences that you are holding on to your rights.

3. The soft father
Your father cleaned, vacuumed and made food for the family while your feminist mother was out to realize herself.

Your complianing father (and dominant mother) has left you with a picture, that the woman is the strongest sex. Therefore, you end up time and again with a boundless man. In the beginning it is nice, but at some point you get the feeling that he is not really present and you get annoyed that he never enters character.

You have to work with it: Instead of getting angry with your boyfriend, look inside: When do you start to sniff him? Is it you who is unreasonable once in a while? Count to ten instead of flipping out the next time he annoys you.

4. The perfect father
Your childhood was a string of rosy experiences. And Dad is and will be the best in the world!

You are unconditionally father's girl, and no other man will ever reach him. You make endless demands on a man, and when you finally find someone who lives up to him, you spend all your time flasching your perfect relationship to the world. For example, you do not like to argue, so the problems have to grow between you, because they never get into the light.

It is natural that children idyllize their parents, but during teens you should have found out, that the old man also can be an idiot. Otherwise, you probably also find it difficult to see your own shadow sides. But guess what? You are filled with errors/faults like everyone else. Practice accepting them. Then it will also be easier to live with your boyfriends short commings and his smelly feet.