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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2019 20:45:37 GMT
He ignores my texts for months. Doesn't reply. The moment I text him with my new number. He sends a reply back within one minute later thanking me for my new number. I then ask him about meeting up next week. Tells me no thanks. Then I ask him about whether he wants us to remain as friends? He's reply back is "sure, if you want too".
As soon as I point out - I just want a friendship with him. He ignores me.
Why go from blanking me for months. Then thanking me for my new number. Then refuses to meet up and then ignores me again.
What kind of pathetic immature crap is that??
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Post by ocarina on Apr 6, 2019 20:50:32 GMT
But you're continuing to engage?  Baffling inconsistency is just that - crazy making. You have a choice here though - do you want a friendship with someone who ignores you? Who seems not to care either way if you remain friends? Doesn't want to meet up? You can't see into someone elses mind but it is often very helpful to reflect back on yourself. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2019 20:53:08 GMT
Cause I feel bad for him as his isolated. It's so difficult to walk away when you care for someone.
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Post by hola on Apr 6, 2019 21:24:43 GMT
He ignores my texts for months. Doesn't reply. The moment I text him with my new number. He sends a reply back within one minute later thanking me for my new number. I then ask him about meeting up next week. Tells me no thanks. Then I ask him about whether he wants us to remain as friends? He's reply back is "sure, if you want too". As soon as I point out - I just want a friendship with him. He ignores me. Why go from blanking me for months. Then thanking me for my new number. Then refuses to meet up and then ignores me again. What kind of pathetic immature crap is that?? First, how many texts has he been ignoring over how many months? |
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Post by ocarina on Apr 6, 2019 21:25:59 GMT
Care for yourself first and foremost. Always.
It is possible to care deeply for someone without getting mired in their issues - sometimes walking away is necessary for your own health and wellbeing. Walking away with love rather than remaining and getting increasingly frustrated and resentful which is not a loving state.
He sounds as though he's not open to whatever you're offering and it's important to respect that - his isolation is his choice.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2019 21:29:10 GMT
He ignores my texts for months. Doesn't reply. The moment I text him with my new number. He sends a reply back within one minute later thanking me for my new number. I then ask him about meeting up next week. Tells me no thanks. Then I ask him about whether he wants us to remain as friends? He's reply back is "sure, if you want too". As soon as I point out - I just want a friendship with him. He ignores me. Why go from blanking me for months. Then thanking me for my new number. Then refuses to meet up and then ignores me again. What kind of pathetic immature crap is that?? First, how many texts has he been ignoring over how many months? Three months - with one text every two weeks. Three months - with one text every two weeks. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2019 21:30:40 GMT
Care for yourself first and foremost. Always. It is possible to care deeply for someone without getting mired in their issues - sometimes walking away is necessary for your own health and wellbeing. Walking away with love rather than remaining and getting increasingly frustrated and resentful which is not a loving state. He sounds as though he's not open to whatever you're offering and it's important to respect that - his isolation is his choice. Why thank me for my new number? I've been ignored up to this point. Then I get ignored again after giving my new number and turned down with hanging out. |
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Post by ocarina on Apr 6, 2019 21:42:08 GMT
You can't get into someones head - ever. Ignoring months of texts and not wanting to hang out are a firm enough sign he's not interested in engaging - if that changed he knows where you are.
Again - why are you still around when you've been ignored and he's made it plainly obvious he's not interested? Disengaging doesn't mean you don't care.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2019 21:47:07 GMT
I ask him about whether he wants us to remain as friends? He's reply back is "sure, if you want too".
What the hell is that supposed to mean?
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Post by hola on Apr 6, 2019 21:57:32 GMT
Care for yourself first and foremost. Always. It is possible to care deeply for someone without getting mired in their issues - sometimes walking away is necessary for your own health and wellbeing. Walking away with love rather than remaining and getting increasingly frustrated and resentful which is not a loving state. He sounds as though he's not open to whatever you're offering and it's important to respect that - his isolation is his choice. Why thank me for my new number? I've been ignored up to this point. Then I get ignored again after giving my new number and turned down with hanging out. Ok, so if he’s been ignoring you for 3 months, it’d Be best to leave it at that and take a step back. Let him be. If he thanked you for your new number, maybe he was just being cordial? I don’t know the extent of your relationship. |
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Post by faithopelove on Apr 7, 2019 0:57:58 GMT
I ask him about whether he wants us to remain as friends? He's reply back is "sure, if you want too". What the hell is that supposed to mean? @thatright - It means he doesn’t care one way or the other and you’ll be the one doing all the work to keep the relationship going- as you have the past 3 months. When someone doesn’t respond for three months they are sending you a loud message that they do not want a friendship or relationship with you. Thanking you for your new number wasn’t an invitation to engage. He didn’t ask you a question. It was a simple thanks. He may have responded without even knowing it was you. I’d give him the space he wants. Eventually he could be in a different place and want to talk to you. If he wants to continue your relationship, he knows how to reach you. I’d call this title “Cold” - nothing”hot” inviting at his end. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2019 9:08:24 GMT
Thank you all for your replies and kind support - I really appreciate it.
I've deleted his numbers and his FB page. This friendship is not healthy. In fact toxic. Friendships are a two way street not a one way.
Gosh - it shows how little of myself I think. Low self esteem.
Your right - I deserve much better than settling for less.
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