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Post by anne12 on Apr 12, 2019 17:51:44 GMT
faithopeloveThe ambivalent in a relationship and doubt: Am I together with the right person or Is there someone better than my partner Am I okay for my partner, is there someone better than me, will my partner leave me
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Post by faithopelove on Apr 12, 2019 21:23:01 GMT
faithopeloveThe ambivalent in a relationship and doubt: Am I together with the right person or Is there someone better than my partner Am I okay for my partner, is there someone better than me, will my partner leave me - Ok, thanks for clarifying. I get the part about feeling like my partner may leave me with that strong fear of abandonment, and with deep reflection also the feeling that my partner doesn’t fulfill me or meet all my needs for attention, love and security (what partner can?) so the desire to seek someone else who may be better and make me feel better as a result. I can see the AP in that. Thx |
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Post by anne12 on Apr 13, 2019 22:57:36 GMT
Also if In doubt - the ambivalent can sometimes pause/stop the relationship, just to find out, if the ambivalent misses you.
If you or your partner does This pause thing, there is some ambivalent attatchment behavior going on.
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Post by faithopelove on Apr 13, 2019 23:12:31 GMT
Also if In doubt - the ambivalent can sometimes pause/stop the relationship, just to find out, if the ambivalent misses you. If you or your partner does This pause thing, there is some ambivalent attatchment behavior going on. - interesting. I’m less likely to be the one to pause a relationship due to my fear of abandonment. However, in the past I have transitioned in a relationship from AP to avoidant, due to an extended time of pursuing, and that’s when I finally shut down and leave the relationship. It gets old after a while. |
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Post by anne12 on Apr 13, 2019 23:32:01 GMT
The doubt thing and pause thing often happens when the partner to the ambivalent becomes fully availible.
You or the other person can have a mix of different attatchment styles.
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