After a year-long dating hiatus, I met my perfect secure
May 9, 2019 5:36:26 GMT
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Post by bloom on May 9, 2019 5:36:26 GMT
I took a long break from this forum to really get my head together, and focus back on myself, since I was using this forum as a way to vicariously revisit and rehash a failed "situationship" that happened well over a year ago. (You can read my story under the name 'Bloom')
Since then, I had a year to myself, albeit with a quick fling with yet another avoidant man, which I was able to eject myself out of rather quickly when I realised and managed to avoid getting emotionally entangled.
Well, three months ago, I met a secure man on OkCupid, who I'd previously chatted at various intervals with in the two years I'd been on and off of the app, and had even taken his number a while ago but never called him (which has become a private joke of ours now). When I finally met him, I didn't feel attracted to him AT ALL at first, but soon into the date, I realised he was incredibly weird, and also, absolutely hilarious to me. We spent 6 hours together on our first date, and then 12 hours two days later. There were no games whatsoever, he was just straight up about who he was and what he wanted.
It's been three months since that first date, and we've been pretty much inseparable that entire time... because this guy actually WANTS to spend time with me. He has prioritised time with me more than anything else in his life.
I look at my boyfriend now, and considering I wasn't attracted at all at first, I now just look at him in awe. I just love this man. I'm insanely attracted to him, and he's one of the most interesting people and insanely talented people I've ever met, and I'm lucky enough to call him mine.
Do not buy into the myth that secures are boring!
From my perspective, I'm having the best sex of my life, and I have bagged myself someone who is way more talented and funny than any of my previous partners. You get what you believe you deserve... calling something boring is just a good defence against what you're afraid of: intimacy.
Since then, I had a year to myself, albeit with a quick fling with yet another avoidant man, which I was able to eject myself out of rather quickly when I realised and managed to avoid getting emotionally entangled.
Well, three months ago, I met a secure man on OkCupid, who I'd previously chatted at various intervals with in the two years I'd been on and off of the app, and had even taken his number a while ago but never called him (which has become a private joke of ours now). When I finally met him, I didn't feel attracted to him AT ALL at first, but soon into the date, I realised he was incredibly weird, and also, absolutely hilarious to me. We spent 6 hours together on our first date, and then 12 hours two days later. There were no games whatsoever, he was just straight up about who he was and what he wanted.
It's been three months since that first date, and we've been pretty much inseparable that entire time... because this guy actually WANTS to spend time with me. He has prioritised time with me more than anything else in his life.
I look at my boyfriend now, and considering I wasn't attracted at all at first, I now just look at him in awe. I just love this man. I'm insanely attracted to him, and he's one of the most interesting people and insanely talented people I've ever met, and I'm lucky enough to call him mine.
Do not buy into the myth that secures are boring!
From my perspective, I'm having the best sex of my life, and I have bagged myself someone who is way more talented and funny than any of my previous partners. You get what you believe you deserve... calling something boring is just a good defence against what you're afraid of: intimacy.