Post by leavethelighton on May 25, 2019 0:04:00 GMT
What's do you see as the difference between expectation and disappointment at the failure of a hope? Because I've been accused before of having too much expectation when I didn't perceive my feelings as expectation so much as hope.
gosh @leavethelighton, you're on a roll with great insights today.
expectations is having a certain outcome already present in your mind and waiting for it to happen, while hope is a feeling state that things will work out positively towards a particular outcome and seeing if it will happen.
to what you said about having "too many expectations", i don't think it's a good or bad thing - it really depends on your state of mind, intention, and execution. For example, I expect my partners to treat me with respect, love, integrity and kindness - some might say that this is too many expectations, but this is not something I want to "hope" for, i simply "demand" that to become/stay my partner, this is the rule of engagement.
I see expectation as entitlement, and intertwined with the “shoulds” of life, which to me are rubbish. People should or should not treat me this way, people should do this, etc. They’re all guaranteed recipes for disappointment and resentment.