iz42
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Post by iz42 on Oct 27, 2019 6:30:22 GMT
Hmm, I figured "ambivalent" attachment means FA? I'm not sure though.
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Post by faithopelove on Oct 27, 2019 11:04:13 GMT
Hmm, I figured "ambivalent" attachment means FA? I'm not sure though. Ambivalent means anxious. It’s the AP style. Disorganized is FA. |
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Post by anne12 on Oct 28, 2019 11:33:16 GMT
Where can you meet a partner irl.: study Work where you live, Out in town, on bars (drink only 1-2 items, otherwise you can go below your standard and lose your presence fitness center and places where you get your pulse up) - men tend to be attracted to women in Places where the adrenaline level is high) running clubs kayak clubs rowing clubs evening high schools super markets (as a Woman You can contact a man in the wine department for help choosing a wine) bus stop the train in the parks[, airports ect. take cooking clases friends Ask People in your network (family, colleges, friends) ect. Arranged meetings Arrange a party where each of you bring your ex date. Somebodys trash could be another person's gold. You can also make a list with the alphabet from a-z: Write down a place starting with each letter. Ex a - amusement park, b - bookstore/beach, c - carwash, café. Then be proactive every single day and go to one of the different places. Ask a man/woman at the book store what book they are reading/buying, talk to the barrista at the coffee shop, compliment a woman/man every day, ask a man to help you at the gas station, talk to the person sitting beside you in the train Go for a walk in a new park on the other side of the city from where you live ect. Get to know people with social hubs, make your own social hub and invite people to join, force yourself to talk to at least 3 men/women at the fitness center, ask a man/woman for light at a bar ect., get a new hobby that you enjoy where you can meet new people, do voulenteer work, babysit a dog and go for a walk in the park ect. www.boredpanda.com/how-to-get-men-1950s-dating-article-magazine-mccalls/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organicHire a dating coach to push you out of your comfort zone m.youtube.com/watch?v=vRffXIrD_A8You can also look at the post about where the different attatchment styles usually hang out. |
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Post by anne12 on Nov 4, 2019 10:14:33 GMT
What type of woman would make a good partner?
Here’s the bottom line: Look for a woman who can receive her mother’s love. If she has remained trusting and vulnerable to her mother’s love, if she delights in receiving her mother’s tenderness and care, she will receive similarly from you. Your relationship will also be strengthened if her mother and father—whether they stayed together or not—demonstrated care and respect for one another. Now let’s turn the tables.
What type of man would make a good partner?
Here’s the bottom line: Look for a man who reveres his father. If he credits his father for being his role model, guiding him through life’s challenges, you’re in good hands. A man who admires his father often wants to emulate what he admires most in him. Choose a man who feels loved and supported by both parents, yet sees himself as being a bit more aligned with his father. If he was his mother’s emotional partner, and was distant with his father, don’t expect an easy road ahead.
If he attempted to satisfy his mother’s unmet needs and supply her with what she felt she couldn’t get from her husband, proceed cautiously. This man is likely to have difficulty appreciating your needs. Fearing that you will want too much from him, the way his mother did, he is likely to put his guard up by shutting down physically or emotionally when he feels he’s getting too close to you.
Our partner’s relationship with his or her parents can be a trusted indicator of how frustrating or fulfilling our relationship can be. If there’s one takeaway, it would be this: A solid bond with the same-sexed parent can be insurance that your relationship will endure. With this principle as your guiding light, you now hold an essential piece of the relationship puzzle and can be more prepared when it’s time to pick your life partner.
If your date / partner haven't had a good relationship with one or both his/her parent's, ask if the person has tried to repair the brake in the bond irl or through therapy ect. It can also be done even if the person's parents are dead through different kinds of techniques.
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Post by anne12 on Dec 8, 2019 4:53:36 GMT
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Post by janedoe on Dec 8, 2019 5:15:30 GMT
Geez. This is a lot like the FA that brought me here. The word salad, drama triangle...that was very much him. He somehow played victim and a confident/arrogant person at the same time. It can be incredibly confusing because they genuinely have issues/sensitivities, but play them up for your pity, to control you, to your detriment, at the same time. |
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