Affair With DA

I think the "new Mom" may be important here. As someone who has had a few children myself not so long ago, I can share my thoughts on that juncture of life...

Being a "new Mom" is a very challenging point to one's identity. It can be stressful, lonely, isolating, confusing, and all sorts of other things. It brings up vulnerabilities. I actually think on a subconscious level that having a baby brings up all sorts of hidden shadow stuff that one doesn't even realize was lurking in one's psyche, perhaps from one's own infancy and childhood. Anyway, all of this is to say that it is the point of one's life where a new mom may wish to reach out towards sources of comfort themselves, even while they are putting so much energy into being someone whose focus is nurturing this new baby that has been brought into the world.

Also in many cases having a baby destabilizes one's relationship, so if she has a husband then their having this baby together may be destablizing to that relationship, which could also be related to her reaching out to you. Maybe not, but it's possible.

So my advice is to be a friend if you can just be a friend (I think that's a point in a woman's life when she can often use a friend), but recognize that this isn't about you at all. In other words, if you're sitting here hoping that maybe this emotional affair can be re-ignited into something meaningful, this probably isn't the best point in her life for that.

Also if she's DA, then her reaching towards you may be part of her creating some distance between herself and her husband/child. It can be very overwhelming having a new baby, especially if it's her first. (Is it her first?)

True-- it's probably a better use of OP's time and more appropriate to figure out himself rather than to analyze her. But I do find the timing interesting....