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Post by hannah99 on Jun 23, 2019 8:39:24 GMT
My ex left me very suddenly for a friend of ours. As far as I was concerned our relationship was better than ever. We had some issues (he'd ended things before when the relationship was going well only to beg for me back days or weeks later) and I felt we had got to a point where we were finally honest, open and balanced. We were living together, making future plans and he was being a great partner. He'd even been honest about the times this girl had suggested she liked him but told me she was just a friend. Suddenly he decided he liked her and got up and left, moved out of our house, gone.
I know it's over. I'm relieved in many ways. But do you think any of this behaviour is linked to fa?
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Post by mrob on Jun 23, 2019 13:45:07 GMT
Yes. It’s a part of my story. Linked to not being able to know, let alone express my needs in a functional way, nor deal with confrontation.
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Post by hannah99 on Jun 23, 2019 16:59:10 GMT
Did you stay with your affair partner?
Do you think he was just too scared to tell me? Why was he being such a good partner before he left?
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Post by happyidiot on Jun 24, 2019 16:55:57 GMT
hannah99 Personally I believe FAs can suddenly seek out a new partner because they are triggered and looking for an out. Some of us are actually sometimes triggered by things going too well or some kind of relationship milestone or things of that nature. Another explanation could be that he was just trying to ACT like everything was ok or didn't want to rock the boat or end your relationship until he was sure that he had an interest in this other woman. Who knows. I am FA and I also had my FA ex dump me out of nowhere and start dating someone else the same day. I'm sorry this happened to you.
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Post by hannah99 on Jun 24, 2019 17:06:18 GMT
Thank you. I suppose I will never really know and should focus on myself now.
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Post by mrob on Jun 27, 2019 1:05:42 GMT
Did you stay with your affair partner? Do you think he was just too scared to tell me? Why was he being such a good partner before he left? No. I was so ashamed that I tried to bury it, but of course, it’s never really buried, coming out very publicly later. |
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