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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2019 4:30:33 GMT
This was hard for me to stay tuned to because although I really like her, she talks fast and uses so many words and kind of drifts and weaves. Does anyone else struggle with that? Kind of overwhelming. She addressed something that has long puzzled me, and it blew my mind. She mentions the socially engaged DA as a "special breed" an enneagram 7, able to be dynamically socially engaged in a service-relationship capacity. I'm an enneagram 7, I had no idea she would bring this into the analysis! I thought I was just a quirky one. I have had several jobs that required a lot of interaction with the public and have not had difficulty with that, (one on one, not emotional relating) and it's as Thais described. My girlfriend who is DA is so classic, with a very reserved social presence, and has a certain stiffness to her demeanor. It's fascinating, and I appreciate that Thais illuminates the spectrum and variances within the DA attachment style. Of course, I realize that we all have bits of various styles in us, as well. But this was a pretty good video addressing some DA traits and where they come from. youtu.be/Eph9Z96NF4E |
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Post by faithopelove on Dec 1, 2019 5:10:10 GMT
Lol Yes, she does tend to weave and bunny trail when she talks, but I think I’m used to that so it doesn’t bother me so much  |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2019 5:17:50 GMT
Lol Yes, she does tend to weave and bunny trail when she talks, but I think I’m used to that so it doesn’t bother me so much It made me want to cry. Lol. Then she said closer to the end about the female DA that will be sassy and abrupt and say "Can you get to the point?" It's really funny! It's not that I don't like her, I just couldn't stay with some parts, and I didn't finish the video quite but I will go back to it. Funny she also mentioned news, and liking things that are quick to read, little bytes. So me. I also had a very elaborate fantasy life as a kid, I thought that made me AP. She was so on point. And yeah I guess it's from not getting those needs met. I starred in Out of Africa, as a kid, traipsing through the fields. I don't remember the plot line now but I was totally living it in my head, back then. So funny. |
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Post by faithopelove on Dec 1, 2019 5:29:23 GMT
Lol Yes, she does tend to weave and bunny trail when she talks, but I think I’m used to that so it doesn’t bother me so much It made me want to cry. Lol. Then she said closer to the end about the female DA that will be sassy and abrupt and say "Can you get to the point?" It's really funny! It's not that I don't like her, I just couldn't stay with some parts, and I didn't finish the video quite but I will go back to it. Funny she also mentioned news, and liking things that are quick to read, little bytes. So me. I also had a very elaborate fantasy life as a kid, I thought that made me AP. She was so on point. And yeah I guess it's from not getting those needs met. I starred in Out of Africa, as a kid, traipsing through the fields. I don't remember the plot line now but I was totally living it in my head, back then. So funny. @inmourning - I think my DA needs everything in little bytes!! Lol Yes, I do think it’s easier to create a fantasy life as a part of an escape when real life is undesirable. I heard another video by someone else touch that topic today- it’s amazing how kids will cope either in imaginary friends, through stuffed animals or prayer...whatever gets them through. Children have very limited resources but are creative. I also had a very active fantasy life w my dolls and stuffed animals and always fantasized about growing up and leaving. It’s sad to think kids need to do this, but I guess it’s a tremendous help, at the time. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2019 5:36:04 GMT
I grew up in a religious family and they told me that Jesus would answer any prayer and grant what I asked for with a pure heart. Well,, I had to walk home a long way by myself in second grade, down the hot dusty sidewalk. I was so tired, so hot. Every day! I asked Jesus to make me into a little bluebird so I could fly home. They lied! Lol. But every day for a while I occupied myself with that hopeful prayer- it must have made the walk more tolerable thinking I'd be free of it any minute.  |
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