Post by leavethelighton on Feb 26, 2018 1:35:52 GMT
I wonder how other people's minds keep the push-pull pattern going even without the actual in-person interaction.
Like with this DA person I had feelings for who triggers my AP side... we have no contact now and I have consciously stopped trying and am committed to not contacting the person again unless they ever contact me first (then I'd respond)....
In spite of myself, I'll keep it up in the fantasy realm. Or I'll do things like try to send them subconscious-psychic messages or communicate through imaginary spirit guides or whatever will sustain some little ray of inner hope. and make me feel like it isn't all over... In the fantasies the whole reunifaction--rejection--reunification--rejection pattern continues to play out, maybe with more emphasis on reunification.
I wonder if it's really fully escapable on a psychological level or if that could remains forever even after one finally finds the wisdom to end all in-person contact.
A part of me is like "I'm so done!" because of the conscious end of the in-person contact, but I can't really oust the fantasy part of it. At least it's good that I fantasize less than I used to?
Like with this DA person I had feelings for who triggers my AP side... we have no contact now and I have consciously stopped trying and am committed to not contacting the person again unless they ever contact me first (then I'd respond)....
In spite of myself, I'll keep it up in the fantasy realm. Or I'll do things like try to send them subconscious-psychic messages or communicate through imaginary spirit guides or whatever will sustain some little ray of inner hope. and make me feel like it isn't all over... In the fantasies the whole reunifaction--rejection--reunification--rejection pattern continues to play out, maybe with more emphasis on reunification.
I wonder if it's really fully escapable on a psychological level or if that could remains forever even after one finally finds the wisdom to end all in-person contact.
A part of me is like "I'm so done!" because of the conscious end of the in-person contact, but I can't really oust the fantasy part of it. At least it's good that I fantasize less than I used to?
