Be aware of some on this forum...

Don't get it going again please.
If a person felt set apon and bullied then that's how they truly felt, and they chose to leave enough said.

When my late husband first got sober he was AA and attending an AA detox and rehab centre for 6 months.
He use to take me to open meetings with him, I learnt a lot in those rooms and met some amazing people.
In his early recovery he use to come head to head with some of the old timers 20 plus yrs sober but some as sick as the day they walked in the rooms.
He use to say to me early on nothing triggers him to wanting a drink as much as listening to some of the ego's in these fking rooms.
The more he focused on really getting well and secure and right with his higher power working his steps and helping others the more he became unaffected by some of the stuck sick people in those rooms, they no longer effected him, he new they still weren't well regardless of how many years tokens they had collected.
His recovery showed real growth because he no longer reacted or got effected by others with many many years of sobriety but acted like dry drunks. I am in early recovery but already react less to negative effects people have on me.

Last post - for the benefit of those I want to help.

I’m not surprised by this response as @mary was one of those that targeted me.

Am I bothered? No - because she and the poster above are again accusing me of labelling someone a narc, which if you read properly you would see I stated that was exactly NOT what I was doing.

Anxious / naive - both what I was for years and years and I suffered immensely from being taken advantage of because if it.
Until I learnt and changed.
Sad - because I hate to see others going through what I did and not being aware of it.

Haters gonna hate, controllers gonna (try to) control.

Whilst Jeb’s Info is excellent, I got more value / lessons from real life and valuable teachers such as Richard G than from the members of the forum - which is dominated by a closed, dysfunctional group replaying their attachment models.

What do they say? If (certain) people make you feel bad, especially about yourself, then walk away. They’re not worth it.

APs especially, remember this.

group hug!
with your consent, of course. 

omg hahahaha!
yussss

jbmc, I'm sorry you feel that way.
It's all really just information we can use - how I react, how you react. What I see in you, what you see in me.
If you don't like the 'feel' of the forum, maybe this just is not the right place for you if you would prefer some kind of a safer structure in place, but I feel that in this forum, mostly people are free to belong as they already are, not always comfortably as others challenge us, but sometimes belonging feels like that because we don't all share the same reality or value structure, right? That's what's so great about it here. When the number one casualty of trauma is vulnerability, and communication between the insecure styles suffers in ways that confuse the heck out of everyone, places like this make such a difference because it's where we can hear other perspectives from people who have done the work (or a good deal of it).
It's in risking rupture that we tell the truth as we see it - I've seen ruptures and repairs in this forum. Risking rupture imo is an important part of emotional availability. I don't see any bullies here, just strong characters who risk rupture to tell their personal truth. Also... it's a forum man. I wish people would stop trying to police forums - I could understand if something truly insidious was going down.
You don't get to have intimate conversations like this about our deepest wounds and not trigger anybody, I don't see how that is possible.