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Post by glenjo99 on Jun 20, 2019 18:32:27 GMT
Hi, my attachment style is anxious preoccupied. I have been working on myself for a while now and have a way to go but a work in progress.
My issue currently is I am struggling with summer and it seems to have exacerbated my anxiety. The sun, the heat and everything that goes with it is really irritating me. Loud noises, neighbours kids screaming and the expectation to be always making the most of the weather.
I live alone and am not dating anyone st moment so am really just being with me right now to try heal from codependency and feel my feelings. I think if I had someone to share my life with I may not be as affected by this, however that could be an excuse or my codependent anxious side talking.
So is anyone else affected by summer like this? As I say it's really irritating me to the extent I've had blood work done to make sure it's not anything else. I'm not depressed but it's making me very anxious, the constant noise and openness of it all.
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Post by thinkingman on Jun 23, 2019 1:37:51 GMT
I have similar feelings and I’m married. Maybe that’s worse. I would say that it’s much more difficult to be alone on a beautiful sunny day then it is on a crappy winter day. That’s not you, it’s just human nature. Also, keep in mind that wanting to spend time with others doesn’t make you weird, it makes you normal. Also, Consider this. I went for a 4 mile run today in the park essentially because I was feeling lonely. But someone watching me wouldn’t have thought that. Just remember you are not the only one that feels that way. And when you see other folks out and about and doing things, it definitely doesn’t mean they don’t feel exactly like you. One thing you can do is just to get out and do something. Put yourself in a position where you might meet someone interesting. Keep doing that and one day you will.
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