Accepting a breakup and moving on

Cut contact with him. Work on yourself. Acceptance and moving on takes time. Give yourself that.

You focus on how you were feeling during the relationship. Most of the times we're dumped, the pain and shock are too high to even consider what we really feel and all we focus on is to how to get them back. If you really focus on the relationship, you too will find that it truely was broken, as lovebunny said. No one can stay in a relationship when it's off and on this often.

It's hard, very hard. Give yourself time and don't be so harsh on yourself. Grieve the relationship, go through all of the emotions and I promise, it will get better. You will realize that this is something you didn't really want, even if I might sound like a lunatic to you right now.

No alarm Bells at All ?
"He'd even been honest about the times this girl had suggested she liked him but told me she was just a friend. Suddenly he decided he liked her and got up and left,"
There must have been something...why did You talk about This other girl? Why did He have to tell You That she was interested in him if they were only friends ? Do You think That IT is okay to have friends of the opposit sex, if the Friend wanted to have a relationship with your partner ? Is This being real friends do You think ?
What did your male friends think of This Guy ?

Cruel

Broken Up more than once!

Maybe You can Write down some of the alarm Bells That You might have overlooked ?

Do You know your own dealbreakers ?

Ex:l:

What has happend in the relationship ?
Why did it end ?
What was my own tribute ?
What was my ex´s tribute ?

It is normal to grieve and to be sad. Maybe you diden´t give yourself permission to be sad and to feel all your feelings ect. when he broken Up with You. Maybe You have got some hidden anger in your system maybe ?
You can use the paradoxial change method, to help you to accept your sadness, the anger and other feelings that comes up. The moment you are able to allow the feeling, the mood or the state to be there, as it is - it can change.

When we experience negative feelings, moods or states, we would like to change these. But the urge can give a battle inside. The paradoxical change method is, to change without struggle:
jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/1128/accepting-paradoxial-change-method

Writing This down in paper canbhelp You to Get back into your own Power, so That You do not feel as a victim.

I guess I believed him when he said they were just friends. I'm of the view that it's fine to have friends of the opposite sex and he showed me a lot of love and care in the rest of our lives that I trusted him.

I have done quizzes and think I'm ap. Possibly fa.