Post by isildur4797 on Jul 10, 2019 14:53:52 GMT
Jul 10, 2019 14:45:55 GMT @sherry said:
This girl and I knew each other for the past 2-3 years and got close at the end of our senior spring semester, started hooking up too. She mentioned having issues which feelings due to a past guy (who she’d never dated and doesn’t talk to). She mentioned having issues with feelings due to a past guy (who she’d never dated and doesn’t talk to) who she wasn’t over. So I agreed to give it time and be casual. Anyways I eventually realized she was avoidant, and I have been working on adjusting to that since I’m an anxious person. We'd been talking since our graduation, a LOT at first, then a lot less, and a little more again in the last week and a half, but we haven't seen each other since graduation.
We were going to spend the night together later this week on the fourth. Few nights ago talking on the phone I mentioned how she was the person I was hooking up with and she started feeling wierd after that. Told me last night that she decided she was not into me because of that guy from 2 years ago, and that it had been part of ruining every relationship since. That she realized two nights ago, and that it "hit her like a brick".
Anyways I took it very very well and actually talked about other stuff too. Still supposed to be hanging there that night and hoping it won’t be awkward. Based on past experiences, while I don’t expect anything to happen that night, i wouldn’t be shocked. I’ve had situations before we’re we hung out and she was surprised by how much fun she had or how into what we were doing she was and so on. Like very surprised.
On some level I’m hoping something would happen in the future - I really liked this girl - but I’m moving on and it should be a lot easier this time around than it has been in the past.
What does everyone thing about her pulling away, the ex she still likes, and the possibility things changing? Honestly curious...
but here you say you guys started hooking up, she said she had problems with feelings and so you agreed to be casual.
You are not being clear.