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Post by faithopelove on Mar 27, 2020 22:11:35 GMT
seeking - It’s perfectly normal and natural for a woman to want to be with a man who makes her feel safe and protected. It’s one of women’s basic needs. (Who would want to be with a man who makes them feel unsafe or threatened?) Yes, there is a big difference between wanting a man who makes you feel safe vs wanting a man to rescue or save you. The latter is an unhealthy fairy tale; however, a safe, reliable and protective partner is one who comes from a secure and healthy place and has the potential to be a good partner. "Craving safety" in someone else is not healthy, imo. That puts a whole lot of responsibility on someone else. I understand we ALL want safety, but are we talking emotional safety or physical safety? Obviously we want someone to feel physically safe with, but if you "crave" emotional safety from someone else, that's coming from a really unhealthy place. - I don’t know if OP ever used the word “crave,” that’s a strong word, but to want a partner who is both physically and emotionally safe sounds like a reasonable expectation to me. |
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Post by nyc718 on Mar 28, 2020 0:08:51 GMT
"Craving safety" in someone else is not healthy, imo. That puts a whole lot of responsibility on someone else. I understand we ALL want safety, but are we talking emotional safety or physical safety? Obviously we want someone to feel physically safe with, but if you "crave" emotional safety from someone else, that's coming from a really unhealthy place. - I don’t know if OP ever used the word “crave,” that’s a strong word, but to want a partner who is both physically and emotionally safe sounds like a reasonable expectation to me. She used that word, which is why I used it in quotes. I'm not trying to put words in people's mouths. Yes, we all deserve and desire safety, but a secure person doesn't crave that from someone else. That's not the same as not wanting it, but anything you're looking for in someone else that you think is missing is really a part of yourself that needs to be healed doing your own work, as I've learned. I don't mean to annoy anyone with my incessant Instagram posts but there are so many profiles of people out there to help people heal and become whole. This post might help illustrate what I mean. http://instagram.com/p/B-O569dHvep |
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