Post by seeking on Apr 26, 2020 22:30:50 GMT
I have an online dating profile up.
The last guy I was interested in (despite not being super physically attracted), ghosted me and I'm pretty sure was on the spectrum of avoidant.
The next guy and I wrote a bunch, then he disappeared for a week or two. I wrote last night to say "hey" and he wrote back and I wrote back, but then I have not heard from him again. I liked him too.
The third guy keeps writing me right back. He asked me questions. He asked to exchange numbers.
I decided to find stuff wrong with him - he's not my type, he lives to far away, he doesn't believe in god (I do, and it's important to me), he doesn't want more kids (i might).
BUT here's the thing. Is this avoidance in disguise?
I seem to only find the avoidant ones "attractive" and interesting and anyone who writes me often, is responsive/available to have something wrong.
But then god and not wanting more kids are kind of dealbreakers?
But it's also a little suspicious.
The last guy I was interested in (despite not being super physically attracted), ghosted me and I'm pretty sure was on the spectrum of avoidant.
The next guy and I wrote a bunch, then he disappeared for a week or two. I wrote last night to say "hey" and he wrote back and I wrote back, but then I have not heard from him again. I liked him too.
The third guy keeps writing me right back. He asked me questions. He asked to exchange numbers.
I decided to find stuff wrong with him - he's not my type, he lives to far away, he doesn't believe in god (I do, and it's important to me), he doesn't want more kids (i might).
BUT here's the thing. Is this avoidance in disguise?
I seem to only find the avoidant ones "attractive" and interesting and anyone who writes me often, is responsive/available to have something wrong.
But then god and not wanting more kids are kind of dealbreakers?
But it's also a little suspicious.