Post by tnr9 on Sept 3, 2020 15:53:25 GMT
To those who know me and my story...after a solid year of no contact, I am finally able to let B go in love. I was talking to my therapist and told her that it was his marriage that finally broke the cycle because I can’t fantasize my way around him being married. I do wish him well and only want the best for him....but it is now time to focus on me. I would encourage anyone else who is experiencing a difficult time letting go of your “ex” to give yourself grace and space to really grieve....then, find a good therapist who can work gently with you on the root matters....because your ex is just a symptom of a deeper pain from your past. The way to heal is not around the pain, but straight through it....that is where I am now...walking through layers of pain. I now also know that no matter how shiny the potential....a man that I fall for instantaneously will not be a good fit. 100% of the time he will be addicted to some substance, he will carry some unexpressed anger and he will be emotionally unavailable to me. It is too soon for me to even consider dating, outside of the challenges this pandemic adds, so I am really centering into “who am I really?” Throwing off decades of expectations and labels from others and really looking for the kernels of “me”. I will still be here....just not as often because I need a break from attachment theory. I do wish everyone here well...wherever you are on your journey. I am also still available for private messages. Virtual hugs to the many friends I have made here.
