Post by tnr9 on Sept 8, 2020 15:11:09 GMT
Hey all.....I pulled a muscle in my back....so my mom came over to help. I had mentioned to her a few days ago that she and I are completely opposite and it really clicked on a lightbulb for her as to why the tactics she used (that would have motivated her) did not work with me. At first her statements were a bit of an ouch....and I did have a solid hour post seeing her of missing B (because in contrast to her, his judgements of me were not the same and felt more accepting) but after that passed, I am back to being in a much better place (except I still feel like I am 70 years old with this back pain...ugh). The fact that she can say things that once felt like judgements/disapproval of me and I can not take those in is huge. It has really changed the dynamic of things. I will never change my mom, but I can embrace all that is me without feeling like I need to prove anything to her. It is a huge weight off of my shoulders.