Help :(

For me, a triggering relationship ending can take me YEARS to get over. My anxiety, ruminating, obsessing and feelings of rejection sometimes have lasted longer than the relationships themselves! But I eventually get over them. Whatever thoughts I have about those exes now don't carry any emotion anymore.

Now that I know more about anxious attachment, I am better equipped to avoid getting involved with people who trigger me, and I seem better able to handle the withdrawl symptoms after a breakup.

I can honestly say I no longer feel any particular way about the FA who left me for another woman who I talked about a lot on this forum 3 years ago. Now, I see them on the streets and I'm like "Oh, hey." It didn't take me years to get over it, either. Ok, maybe like one year, but hey, it's progress!


Two months isn't that long. The more work you put into self care, learning your patterns, healing your past trauma, doing life affirming things, exercising, traveling, whatever, the faster you will feel better. Hang in there!