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Post by anne12 on Apr 11, 2022 15:51:53 GMT
Lust
The bodily response is slower during menopause
Both ourselves and our partner may have an expectation that the woman's desire is the same as before
Many couples never talk about sex around the meno pause.
What is the prerequisite for the desire to be aroused
Psychological factors
Psychosocial desire
Do I have Lust or do I feel like getting Lust
Exercise helps
Live a healthy life
Have a small vibrator that is waterproof and use it in the shower without getting an orgasm until you feel the buzzing and do squeezing exercises. It takes 30 sek.
Amaysin Power Bullet Vibrator is recommended
The connection between the brain and a strong vagina/pelvic floor is important
Sexology and Lust is not just about psychology
It requires that you train your pelvic floor
That you feel your body and what is happening in your vagina
Daily exercise and movement is important
Squeezing exercises helps
We are a mechanism and our body needs to be lubricated
incontinence can affect our sex drive
underweight can affect our sex drive
go for a walk for 30 min every day
Psycologial reasons for lacking lust:
The sex that you have is of poor quality
For some women prefer watching the good wife instead of having bad quality sex
the sex they have and have had for the last 20 years is not good enough e.g. the partner thinks he is the best lover but dosent know what he is doing
lubrication is woman's erection which many men dont know or forget about
people do things for good reasons
if the woman does not feel recognized
do not feel seen
If the partner does not accept influence from the woman
if your partner is not engaged/interested in you
if the partner just says no to everything “no,no,no” and wants to decide what to do as a couple and where to go on vacation ect.
Use the tricks that turn you on
Stress - some partners use their partner as a stress regulator, which is a turnoff
Cortisol affects men's testosterone
Stress affects womens menstrual cycle
how do you live your life
is there is stress
are you good toward yourself
is there anything you can adjust
what is your motivation for sex
what can you do yourself to feel more lust
sex drive must be maintained throughout your whole life
how do you fit sexually with your partner
your higher sensuality and sensibility through meno pause can make your sex life much more intimate
work to increase pleasure and have gourmet sex in your life
A clinical sexologist and couples counselor
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Post by anne12 on Apr 14, 2022 14:05:34 GMT
More about stress
You may have already noticed that your stress threshold has changed - it has become lower - and there are several explanations for this.
First, the decrease in estrogen and progesterone in particular affects your response to the stress hormone cortisol. They simply reduce the effects of the stress hormones. So when there is a decrease, you feel the effect of cortisol without estrogen and the buffer effect of progesterone. Since your adrenal glands take over the production of sex hormones from your ovaries (albeit in smaller amounts than before), then your adrenal glands can get massively overworked because they are also the ones that produce stress hormones.
The body always chooses to produce stress hormones over sex hormones.
Then you are stressed, then it will affect your sex hormones and when they are already low, well then you have a really vicious circle. When your adrenal glands are overworked, they become overloaded more quickly, which increases the risk of adrenal fatigue. It is a condition in which your adrenal glands actually do not respond normally to stress at all anymore. A classic symptom of adrenal fatigue is burnout, overwhelm and massive fatigue. I would think that far over half of my clients suffer from adrenal fatigue and very many of my clients have been misdiagnosed or have been told that it is just a normal part of menopause. In fact, adrenal fatigue is often confused with menopause. Secondly, the whole process of conversion that the body is going through, ie that the production of sex hormones is moved to the adrenal glands, is stressful for the body. Think about how you felt when you were in puberty. Or if you have teenagers in the house - think about how they feel. A teenager often sleeps a lot, they do not have the stamina as before and we are indulgent - they are in puberty and we know that there is a massive refurnishing inside their bodies.
We do not turn the same indulgence and understanding towards ourselves in menopause, even though the same refurnishing is also in full swing in us - just in reverse. We do not take a rest when we can hardly hang together from fatigue. There is just a laundry to be done but it is ESSENTIAL that you understand that the most important thing to thrive in your menopause is by listening to your body's needs and adapting. And by the way - I know it's hard because it's not exactly what we learn in school or from our mothers right?
Find a guided meditations so you have a tool to deal with stress. Allow yourself to relax - this is important for your well-being - and listen to the meditation. Or listen to it if you have trouble falling asleep at night or when you just need to gear down. Find one that lasts 20 minutes and you will be completely calm in both body and soul.
A meno pause mentor, hormonal expert, midlife midwife
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Post by anne12 on Apr 14, 2022 14:17:05 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2022 14:30:23 GMT
Herbs for libido include maca, fenugreek, and there is a lot of information about over the counter bio identical progesterone cream which is very interesting. Women's health is poorly understood by the medical community, in my opinion! And Pharmaceutical companies drive the narrative on what we need. My go to is natural, herbal... and it takes patience because in peri things are always fluctuating.
I just started maca as an adaptogen, because of the research that supports its use for peri. And also using progesterone cream (good for wrinkles, too).
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Post by anne12 on Apr 14, 2022 16:17:48 GMT
Menopause and sex
- it affects women differently.
- you can ask for hormones from your doctor
- you can use jade eggs which massage our vagina, so our vaginal wall becomes thicker and we produce more secretion.
- Book: behind the red door, by Tanja Eskildsen
A female sexologist
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Post by anne12 on Apr 15, 2022 10:22:17 GMT
Practicing self-love is not always easy.
In a world where there is a lot of talk about it being super important, you can get the feeling you are completely wrong about it if you do not know how to do it.
It is not on the school schedule, and many of us have not learned it from our parents.
But do not despair - you will get inspiration and tips to become more self-loving.
The ability to practice self-love matters to your physical well-being and health, and it is one of several things I as a meno pause mentor prescribe to my clients as part of thriving and flourishing during menopause.
Love your neighbor as you love yourself
The love for yourself.
Women must first be something for themselves in order to be something for others.
You have to feel your limits, feel your needs ....
Women who are afraid of becoming too self-absorbed are not going to become that in the negative way. Your thoughts Emotions Borders To honor oneself To stay on your own half of the field
Know its limitation
A Good advice for others is usually an advice for ourselves
Take your projections back
If you are not being selfloving towards yourself it creates a lot of stress in your system and it can cause desceases and problem with your menstrual cycle, peri meno pause, meno pause problems
Ask yourself: Where do you want to go and who wants to join you ?
Being selfloving towards yourself, makes it easier to be able to recieve
Love will flow into you and it can make you feel more voulnarble.
The shift creates calm both internally and externally. You become more attractive to others, when you rest in yourself and when you are selfish.
All change requires a step out of the comfort zone, which can cause people to either disappear out of your life or they will step up.
We are born being able to love ourselves
But We are adapted and brought up with conditional love.
Now you are going to unlearn everything you have learned
It often happens when you are around 40-55 years old
You will meet as many challenges as you and your nerveussystem are able to manage
1) make a Decision to become self loving
2) Get to know your boundaries. You can check if you are violating your own boundaries
3) Stop critisising yourself
4) Stop projecting and criticize others. These thoughts creates stress in your system.
5) Stop bargening/fighting with reality
6) Try to accept that your body is changing. Reach out and ask for help e.g. take action and contact a meno pause mentor, other women ect.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2022 13:04:35 GMT
Being able to talk a lot with other women going through this and women who are beyond it has helped me deal with the feelings a lot, and not feel badly about myself for my emotions. Also having empathy for the fatigue, and depression that seems to come in cycles. We all go through a bit differently but all struggle in various ways.
I slept through the night last night for the first time in a while, maybe the changes I'm making with herbal support are helping.
I give myself plenty of time to rest/nap during the day if I need, and have drawn back on things that wear me out. I don't mind skipping the gym to try to get more sleep, etc... My partner is a main support because we are together a lot, and I cant imagine what it would be like to go through this with a negative relationship. I found him just in the nick of time! 😱
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Post by anne12 on Apr 15, 2022 16:25:21 GMT
Hsp and perimeno pause / meno pause Is there any research on hsp and peri meno pause / meno pause ? As far as I know, there are no specific studies of menopause and SPS together. There is no known physiological link, as far as I know either. Having said that, since we HSPs respond more to everything, including substances, it could be that we respond more to our hormones or lack therof, whether thats in a good way or a not so good way. If we are stressed HSPs, that could make a difference to how we tolerate bodily changes. ——- chronic illness and HSPs, and chronic pain (and yes hormones) fall into that category. While we don't have specific research, we do know that HSPs are more strongly sensitive in their bodies as well as hearts and minds. It is clear that we need more self-care to manage these challenges than 80%ers do. Elaine Aron has aways advocated getting great consultation on health issues and trying more than one medical professional so that you can use your deep processing to find YOUR truth and your best path. hsp coaches lovebunny |
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Post by anne12 on Apr 15, 2022 19:25:42 GMT
Are you tired : Fatigue is one of the most common symptoms and challenges for menopausal women. But why are you so damn tired ? You have to find the root cause for your fatique 4 different form of fatique 1) From you wake up 2) From Morning to lunch time 3) Fatigue from afternoon to evening time 4) All-day fatigue Physical level: Your cells are affected by toxins lack of oxygen lack of nutrients stress negative emotions They all influences the cells' ability to create energy Other factors: Hormonal imbalances low blood sugar / blood sugar imbalances liver problems dehydration sleep problems estrogen dominance inflammation poor digestion Get a medical check if you suffer from massive fatigue Psycological/emotional level: Emotional fluctuations, emotional challenges Increased vulnerability Issues in your relationship Co-dependence Worries repressing your feelings Anxiety Stress - melatonin and cortisol imbalances The spiritual level: exceeding one's own limits not wanting to face the truth Many women take supplemental herbs But one has to look at what is going on in their lives Your body needs rest You are not 30 years old anymore. From an very early age we can set the framework for our menopause later in life For women, corona lock downs may have been a good thing It does not help that you push yourself, even if sociaty says so. Modern life business is not made for the female body. Herbs are used for adrenal fatique. e.g. ginseng, rohdeiela rose, ashwagandha However, these herbs can camouflage your real energy level, so you do not feel, when you are tired and need rest. Breating exercises Breathe deep and all the way down into the abdomen. Do breathing exercises on a daily basis Check out youtube Movement, move on a daily basis Alternate effect between cold-heat : icebaths www.healthline.com/health/infrared-sauna-benefitsEssential oils Bergamotte, citrus/lemon, peppermint Eat healthy and varied Dark chocolate artichoke spinage Blueberry Strawberries Raspberries Pistage Prayers ect. Eat vitamins and minerals - jebkinnisonforum.com/post/46827/Tranquility, rest, self-care Recognize stress in your life - everyday stress also counts Are there things that drain you in your life Find the reason you are stressed and tired |
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Post by anne12 on Apr 16, 2022 2:34:00 GMT
An anti-inflammatory and healing infusion
- which also tastes good.
If you have inflammation in your body, you can drink it every day.
2 cm fresh ginger
3 black peppercorns
3-5 cm fresh turmeric root
1/2 licorice root (or 1 tbsp grated licorice root)
2 leaves stevia (can be replaced with a drop of liquid stevia extract)
1 l of boiling water
Finaly chop all the roots and herbs, and pour over boiling water. Let the drink soak for 2 hours or overnight.
Drink cold and can be enjoyed daily.
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Post by anne12 on Apr 17, 2022 17:08:27 GMT
What does it mean when the body makes noice ?
Shoulders back - you let others cross your boundaries or you cross other People’s boundaries
Lower back - your old traumas you have not redeemed
When we are too much in the head ,, the body can start to show signs of imbalances
If we have accidents, injuries and pain can show us what to work with.
Two different people may have different after-reactions to accidents, falls ect.
Have you listened to your body
What feels good?
Can you follow your intuition?
It costs energy when we counteract what the body tells us
It is important that you listen to the body and what it tells you
Give yourself time out every time you feel something in your body
Ask your body what you need
Communicate with yourself in all areas
- how do you feel
- what is it about
- are they some triggers from the past
- do you soothe yourself with sugar, meat ect so it becomes addiction
Frequency healing is the ability we have to heal within ourselves It's about your feelings. Where are your feelings strongest,in your body ?
Go to your menopause with a positive and a curious mindset
A body interpreter and healer recommends:
Healing consists of both emotion and body
When you are not listening to your body e.g. shoulder neck problems = over-responsibility or you submit to the whims of others ect.
If you do not let it go/solvevit it can settle in the lower back, Stomach ache can mean ....
When you do not release it, it will spread to other parts of your body. But emotions also come into play. The body can show us a system invores emotions
Your body can tell you excatly what you have to work on
The intuition around others sits in the 3rd eye
The more you leave yourself, what grudgingly happy, what gives you joy
The root chakra is about value You may want to start with the harachakra and create enjoyment, joy, sexuality ect.
The body always comes with gifts
E.g. low metabolism ect. The throath chakra is the masculine, you need to take more action, you need to grow up and become an adult.
Resting your ego is important
Find put questions for your body
How your body communicates
You need to be calm to be able to listen, at the same time you should not be too slow
The body remembers everything
The body has existed before the emotions in the womb
By listening to the body, it can tell you what to act on
Sometimes you do not trust the sign you get. It requires practice.
This is where you can be most selfloving.
Many are angry at their body but it is in fact a projection on themselves
Cells are unintelligent
There is no known difference between negative or positive
They want to vibrate as we usually do from the memory of our cells The gentler and the smaller the step, the better the cells can be recoded
Intuition around others sits in the forehead chakra
Our intuition around ourselves sits in the harachakra
When you connect with the precent moment, the better you can take Care of yourself
Once you have closed off the hara chakra, you can not feel yourself
It can give problems with relationships, jobs ect
Low self-esteem
The cells are transformed into something more and more positive
It takes about 7-8 years for our cells to transform
Your vibe gets lighter
When you stumble back in old emotions, you need to take new paths, you need to take steps forward.
Ask your body every day, how does it feel and where can you feel it in your body.
Workout/sports/exercise:
Do you have e.g. need for feminine training (yoga, pilates ect.)
Do you need masculine training (weight training, running)
Ask your body what energy it needs today before you exercise and give yourself time to wait for the answer
A energy frequence healer
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Post by anne12 on Apr 17, 2022 20:18:09 GMT
Breaks/pauses
Do you remember to take breaks during the day ?
Breaks are often prescribed by a meno pause mentor
Women who are in peri menopause / meno pause, need more breaks
It is stressful for the body to go through peri meno pause / menopause ( just as if you were a teenager / pregnant)
Restitution and rest is important
The stress response often works faster in the peri meno pause / in meno pause.
This is self-care
It can help give you fewer menopausal symptoms
if you do not have time for breaks, then your body will react later
For some, breaks creates more stress.
It is not socially acceptable to take breaks in our busy society. We have to be productive.
Not taking breaks, can also be a way to avoid feeling your own feelings
Netflix, checking your phone are not quality breaks
It is important to take BRAIN breaks
We are not created to be active all the time
Take breaks from your thoughts
Different types of breaks during the day:
Pee break - take deep breaths while sitting on the toilet
Coffee break - look out the window while drinking your coffee
Lunch break - go for a walk after eating. Notice your feet on the Ground ect.
Transport breaks - listen to quiet music, pay attention to your breathing when driving ect.
Weekend breaks - reading, mini spa with foot bath, face mask, wellness rituals, listen to music, go for a walk
Performance breaks - do not book too much in the calendar after you have performed
The break of silence - when you are overwhelmed - put yourself under the duvet - cry if you need to - where you do not have to take care of others - lie down on your sofa and look out into the garden
Stress pause breaks - stop - feel your energy level and then - report sick, - get help from others if you have sick parents you need to take care of ect.
What does your body show when it is stressed :
- sleep problems
- headache
- hot flashes
- fatigue
- palpitation
- memory problems
- depression
ect.
- A life without breaks, is a life with stress and a life with peri meno pause / meno pause problems
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2022 13:59:14 GMT
I find this to be extremely accurate! My sensitivity has definitely increased and I wondered about that. Yesterday my boyfriend noticed that I winced when he rolled down my window in the truck, we were driving down the highway. I told him, it's so loud! Then I got curious about how many decibels is driving with the window down on the highway... it averages 90-115 db which is actually,(objectively and not just subjectively) loud enough to cause hearing damage with prolonged exposure. I cannot tolerate loud, busy restaurants which are measured at average 80 db, again, classified objectively as loud. So, it seems to me that I am not necessarily too sensitive, but many many people are comfortable with what can actually harm them, I am not. I am not able to habituate to damaging conditions as well as others are, and that is true in many aspects of my life in terms of my lifestyle. So, maybe it is also wisdom haha! |
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Post by anne12 on Apr 19, 2022 12:51:01 GMT
There are several reasons why divorce is an important topic to talk about. Also in relation to menopause. First, there are many women who are going through a divorce at the same time as menopause rages in the body. Secondly, there are many women who have grief and pain hidden in the body as a result of a divorce that may have an impact on how the body feels during menopause. Third, there may be a reason why many women get divorced during this period of life. It is about transformation and growth that can have an impact on the relationship. Getting divorced requires good helpers and good support. Maybe you have displaced the pain from an earlier brakeup that appears during menopause The grief you experience in a divorce is different from the grief from death Overcoming all the emotions that come up can be hard to deal with Anger, insecurity, anxiety, confusion, jealousy and bitterness that the other has moved on with another woman. At the same time you have to take Care of the children ect. A divorce is trauma, plus it can reaktivate old traumas from the past. You need to give yourself space for your process When you are in resistance you make it harder for yourself You can soothe with food, - date, have sex with new partners, Some are stuck in grief and can not see there is a new way for themselves Advice if you need help seek help from someone who is 10 steps ahead of yourself Get down in the body and use Peter Levine's regulation methods Breathe, Remember it's okay to be vulnerable Vulnerability is not being weak Many women have the chance to get more into their feminine energy Nourishing oneself on all levels is important The potential of a divorce is that you can now rebuild yourself You have a lot more lifeexperience now What and who do you want to be ? jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/1169/healing-broken-heartMaybe you are not going through a divorce/a breakup yourself,but maybe one of your female friends are going through a divorce. With the information about how stressful it is to go through perimenonpause / meno pause and then having to go through a divorce on top of that = stress with more stress on top of it, reach out to your friend. Give her support. We women needs sisterhood in our lifes. A divorce coach, and a meno pause mentor |
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Post by anne12 on Apr 20, 2022 18:45:01 GMT
Did you know that there are about 47 known symptoms associated with menopause.
Only a small proportion of them are commonly known. That is why many women go to one specialist after another without getting an answer, without finding help.
A small selection from the list:
Dizziness
In tinnitus
Visual disturbances
Gallbladder problems
Burning mouth syndrome
A sticking feeling in hands and feet
Muscle pain
Digestive problems
And something can be done about most of the 47 symptoms even though you may have been told that you just have to live with having one or a whole bunch of them🤯.
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