Peri menopause/Meno pause tips, sex, food, nerveussystem

Have you become an anti pleaser :

Something happens, when women in the peri- and menopause naturally lose estrogen.

"Estrogen is the mother hormone. The thing that makes us round, soft, and natural caregivers. When we hit menopause and have no more estrogen, we're done being a mother to others. Quite literally."

Biologically speaking, we are done with being able to have children.
Psychologically, we are done taking care of others, and putting other people's needs before our own. We don't want to be a mother to anyone anymore - neither children nor men 😊
Of course, this does not mean that we become indifferent to others, emotionally cold, or no longer love our children (or partner). It just means that – typically when we are around 50 – we no longer focus so much externally, on the needs of others, but to a greater degree begin to turn our gaze inwards, towards our own needs.
When we are overflowing with estrogen and oxytocin after the birth of a child, we are happiest with the child in our arms. And when the estrogen goes away, we might still think it's wonderful to hold someone else's baby, but we might also think it's great to be able to give the baby back to the mother again 😊

Hormonally, it is completely understandable. This does not mean that menopause is the end of womanhood or that estrogen is the marker of womanhood! But rather, it means that menopause is the beginning of a new form of SELF-care and SELF-actualization—a time when a woman is less likely to feel guilty about saying "no." Hormonally, she has reached the anti-pleaser age.

There can be many physical discomforts with women's menopause, but ... there can also be huge psychological gains

For example, many women around menopause experience a new access to their anger.
They don't want to put up with more shit.
They start to speak up.
They set new boundaries.
And they stop to please.

It can feel a new uncompromisingness, which can be absolutely liberating your can simply become too short to care about what others think of you.
Maybe you’re done doing things you don't really love, care or want. And in return, you might be more ready – than almost ever before – to stand up for issues you think are important. A new menopausal activism is bubbling in a lot of women.

Conversely, it may be that you are challenged by these new feelings...
It can be difficult – and even shameful – to suddenly feel more selfish or short-sighted. And maybe you need help to deal with these new feelings, help to release the anger in healthy ways, or help to speak up or say no.
And maybe you feel like getting to know yourself better, now that everything is changing.
Understand yourself.
Understand where you come from.
Understand its patterns.
So you can change them - with greater awareness. And make peace with yourself and your new self in a loving way.