Why was my ex DA bf so mean during breakup?
Sept 20, 2022 5:28:32 GMT
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Post by shellshocked on Sept 20, 2022 5:28:32 GMT
So I'll try to make this as short as possible. My ex DA bf and I started dating in 2020. We had a great relationship and after 3 months he ended it via text. Besides the fact that doing via text was wrong...his explanation was he wasn't ready for a committed relationship! Since that time he's popped in and out of my life for 1 or 2 months at a time. We would have dates, dinner, biking etc. all without any physical aspect not even kissing. He would always talk about the past with us saying things like that was so nice, remember? We also had a few discussions about us and he always said that the breakup had nothing to do with me at all. So this past March 2022 he asked me to dinner and we had a great time. As I was leaving I realized I couldn't do this whatever it was anymore! So I told him I thought it was best that we cut eachother out of eachothers lives forever. That I had deep romantic feelings for him, and I wanted more. That he was free to date as many women he wanted and I wasn't judging, it just wasn't what I wanted. I explained that I was a good person and deserved better. He was shocked and looked like I had just knocked the wind out of him! He explained that he has a tendency to push people away when he gets close and he wanted to try and work it out and push through those feelings. He said he really wanted to try again. So reluctantly I gave him another chance. We became a real couple in a committed relationship and things were wonderful for 6 months. He was always saying how sweet and healthy our relationship was. That I was a great partner and we had a really good thing! Right before we broke up I felt a distance between us for about 8 days. I asked him about it and he reassured me we were good! Then 1 day I asked if he was going to make the plans for us that weekend. He said sure we can figure it out tomorrow, I'm beat from work. So the next day I texted him good morning and he responded and explained he couldn't get together as he was getting together with some friends to watch a fight on TV. Since we hadn't seen eachother the prior weekend, I was disappointed to say the least. I said ok....did you want to get together in the future?? He flipped out
. Texting I hate this...I don't want any drama ..period!! I was like wth? I never created drama ever...because I myself hate it! So I tried to call him and he didn't answer. So I texted and asked him to call me when he had a minute so we could talk. He failed to respond. I texted again and said I dont think there is any drama, just wanted to talk to avoid any misunderstanding. Once again no response.... so I then texted ..??
Just 2 question marks. He blew up and exploded on me! Your a good woman, you want more than I can offer, we tried, I'm not in love, there is no point in going any further. Take care. I was STUNNED and devastated! What was happening? Neither of us ever talked about being in love!! What just happened I'm thinking. Here he was being all sweet and attentive for months, constantly Texting, calling and we were spending lots of time together. He just went back to work after being out of work for 3 months so I knew we wouldn't be able to see eachother 2-3 times a week anymore...I completely understood. But if your not seeing your gf for 2 weekends in a row....now it would be 3 weeks before we saw eachother again. Question is where is all this anger coming from? Why is he being so aggressive and hostile towards me for no reason? I just don't understand the shift that had taken place for no reason ( that I'm aware of) in our relationship!! If he didn't care about me why try? Plus why vomit out multiple reasons why you want out? All he had to do was be kind tell me....not give me every reason known to man in a rude disrespectful way! I'm so hurt by it all
. Texting I hate this...I don't want any drama ..period!! I was like wth? I never created drama ever...because I myself hate it! So I tried to call him and he didn't answer. So I texted and asked him to call me when he had a minute so we could talk. He failed to respond. I texted again and said I dont think there is any drama, just wanted to talk to avoid any misunderstanding. Once again no response.... so I then texted ..??
Just 2 question marks. He blew up and exploded on me! Your a good woman, you want more than I can offer, we tried, I'm not in love, there is no point in going any further. Take care. I was STUNNED and devastated! What was happening? Neither of us ever talked about being in love!! What just happened I'm thinking. Here he was being all sweet and attentive for months, constantly Texting, calling and we were spending lots of time together. He just went back to work after being out of work for 3 months so I knew we wouldn't be able to see eachother 2-3 times a week anymore...I completely understood. But if your not seeing your gf for 2 weekends in a row....now it would be 3 weeks before we saw eachother again. Question is where is all this anger coming from? Why is he being so aggressive and hostile towards me for no reason? I just don't understand the shift that had taken place for no reason ( that I'm aware of) in our relationship!! If he didn't care about me why try? Plus why vomit out multiple reasons why you want out? All he had to do was be kind tell me....not give me every reason known to man in a rude disrespectful way! I'm so hurt by it all