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Post by faithopelove on Feb 26, 2019 21:57:10 GMT
I’m sorry you’re going through this and even though it hurts, I believe you are better off without him. You deserve someone who wants you around and appreciates you as much as you appreciate and value him. He seemed to be very callous and cold in his treatment of you. It could be if he’s DA then the close proximity of spending the weekend together made him increasingly more irritated as he felt infringed upon. My ex DA acted like that the final days before he broke up with me. He just couldn’t seem to be able to tolerate closeness anymore- your ex may be similar.
Also, whether he did have feelings for you in the past it’s apparent you care more now than he does. That’s really what matters is the present. I understand that need to understand and make sense of things but I sometimes think that these ex partners themselves don’t know what happened to bring about their change of heart.my ex said at the end he didn’t know if it was him, me or us. He just knew he didn’t feel the same and he didn’t think we’d last long term. I believe he was triggered by our conflicts, perhaps yours had triggers as well, but it’s all guessing at this point.
I know the loss feels great- I’m still grappling with mine. However with an inward focus at least I can grow from this relationship and become a better person as a result. Reading your post, attachment aside, I was thinking this girl deserves a better guy! Maybe you have attachment wounds that allow you to tolerate less than loving treatment? Maybe worth looking into...again, sorry for your pain, and yes, going cold turkey always provides me the best way to heal and move on.
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Post by coolcat89 on Feb 27, 2019 1:27:37 GMT
I’m sorry you’re going through this and even though it hurts, I believe you are better off without him. You deserve someone who wants you around and appreciates you as much as you appreciate and value him. He seemed to be very callous and cold in his treatment of you. It could be if he’s DA then the close proximity of spending the weekend together made him increasingly more irritated as he felt infringed upon. My ex DA acted like that the final days before he broke up with me. He just couldn’t seem to be able to tolerate closeness anymore- your ex may be similar. Also, whether he did have feelings for you in the past it’s apparent you care more now than he does. That’s really what matters is the present. I understand that need to understand and make sense of things but I sometimes think that these ex partners themselves don’t know what happened to bring about their change of heart.my ex said at the end he didn’t know if it was him, me or us. He just knew he didn’t feel the same and he didn’t think we’d last long term. I believe he was triggered by our conflicts, perhaps yours had triggers as well, but it’s all guessing at this point. I know the loss feels great- I’m still grappling with mine. However with an inward focus at least I can grow from this relationship and become a better person as a result. Reading your post, attachment aside, I was thinking this girl deserves a better guy! Maybe you have attachment wounds that allow you to tolerate less than loving treatment? Maybe worth looking into...again, sorry for your pain, and yes, going cold turkey always provides me the best way to heal and move on. Thank you for your kind words of encouragement.. it honestly helped me a lot. I do agree- I have some attachment wounds I need to deal with so that’s why I tolerate less than loving treatment. It’s something I need to work on. Wishing you the best with your situation as well. |
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Post by faithopelove on Feb 27, 2019 1:32:00 GMT
I’m sorry you’re going through this and even though it hurts, I believe you are better off without him. You deserve someone who wants you around and appreciates you as much as you appreciate and value him. He seemed to be very callous and cold in his treatment of you. It could be if he’s DA then the close proximity of spending the weekend together made him increasingly more irritated as he felt infringed upon. My ex DA acted like that the final days before he broke up with me. He just couldn’t seem to be able to tolerate closeness anymore- your ex may be similar. Also, whether he did have feelings for you in the past it’s apparent you care more now than he does. That’s really what matters is the present. I understand that need to understand and make sense of things but I sometimes think that these ex partners themselves don’t know what happened to bring about their change of heart.my ex said at the end he didn’t know if it was him, me or us. He just knew he didn’t feel the same and he didn’t think we’d last long term. I believe he was triggered by our conflicts, perhaps yours had triggers as well, but it’s all guessing at this point. I know the loss feels great- I’m still grappling with mine. However with an inward focus at least I can grow from this relationship and become a better person as a result. Reading your post, attachment aside, I was thinking this girl deserves a better guy! Maybe you have attachment wounds that allow you to tolerate less than loving treatment? Maybe worth looking into...again, sorry for your pain, and yes, going cold turkey always provides me the best way to heal and move on. Thank you for your kind words of encouragement.. it honestly helped me a lot. I do agree- I have some attachment wounds I need to deal with so that’s why I tolerate less than loving treatment. It’s something I need to work on. Wishing you the best with your situation as well. Thank you- I know it’s hard but one day at a time. You’re not alone 💗 |
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Post by 8675309 on Feb 27, 2019 13:41:13 GMT
Sorry for this happening.
Attachment aside, hes is just a total jerk!! Id like to insert some other words there over jerk... haha. From what I read here hes just a jerk person even if hes DA and it was not just his DA side speaking...
Good riddance and you'll get through this and find someone that is not such a jerk.
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