Post by alexandra on Nov 12, 2023 13:35:06 GMT
Is this person your boyfriend/girlfriend, or something without a label? How long have you been seeing them?
While anyone not talking to you for several days wants space, as they are telling you in actions even if not clarifying in words, there's really no excuse for a partner to stonewall you with the silent treatment. What kind of romantic relationship really exists if you haven't spoken to each other in a month? I can't imagine it is one that's very fulfilling. If someone isn't emotionally available and can't be there for you, then it's time to be honest with yourself about compatibility and what you are looking for and deserve in life. Is it someone who pulls away under stress / conflict and refuses to communicate with you? Or is it someone who wants to be with you on the same team?
The real question to ask yourself is, why are you willing to sit around for a month waiting and finding ways to blame yourself in order to excuse their behavior and asking how to walk on eggshells around them, rather than feeling it's okay to mourn and move on? No response is a response. You're right that you shouldn't have had to mindread, but that's how things are with this person. You can't force someone to communicate with you in the manner you'd prefer, so you're better off finding someone who is capable of doing so instead of enabling dysfunctional behavior in the hopes of making things work out with an incompatible person.
While anyone not talking to you for several days wants space, as they are telling you in actions even if not clarifying in words, there's really no excuse for a partner to stonewall you with the silent treatment. What kind of romantic relationship really exists if you haven't spoken to each other in a month? I can't imagine it is one that's very fulfilling. If someone isn't emotionally available and can't be there for you, then it's time to be honest with yourself about compatibility and what you are looking for and deserve in life. Is it someone who pulls away under stress / conflict and refuses to communicate with you? Or is it someone who wants to be with you on the same team?
The real question to ask yourself is, why are you willing to sit around for a month waiting and finding ways to blame yourself in order to excuse their behavior and asking how to walk on eggshells around them, rather than feeling it's okay to mourn and move on? No response is a response. You're right that you shouldn't have had to mindread, but that's how things are with this person. You can't force someone to communicate with you in the manner you'd prefer, so you're better off finding someone who is capable of doing so instead of enabling dysfunctional behavior in the hopes of making things work out with an incompatible person.