The holidays and insecure attachments on display

I am currently visiting my brother and sister in law with my mom and stepdad.  This is another opportunity for the insecurities of all to be displayed.  I do feel I am handling things a lot better….although my mom is always a bit tough simply because she and I are very different (not only in attachment, but in myers briggs…she is an ISTJ and I am an ENF with J/P).  My mom has very strong boundaries which I will inevitably cross (not on purpose mind you, but with so many boundaries it is sometimes hard to remember them all).  This year however, I have done a better job of apologizing once and then moving forward….not feeling guilty or taking responsibility for her.  This is not personal but simply my mom defining herself.  And in all fairness…what made my insecurity feel better…over apologizing…used to drive my mom nuts….so we have reached a happy medium.  She and I are currently sitting in silence and engaged on our iPads.