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Post by tnr9 on Feb 15, 2024 3:23:35 GMT
Recently my car was totaled (not my fault) and I had to buy a new to me car….i had thought that I had extended warranties (service, tires) that I could transfer to I went to my local dealership….the finance guy was nice…but he was a bit flirty. Told me he really liked my vibe and made some other complimentary remarks. Today, I actually had to go back because it turned out those warranties were rolled into a loan that my insurance paid off…so I had to pay for those extended warranties. While I was there, I showed him the bumper to bumper warranty that the dealership I bought the other car had sold me. He said he could save me some $…which is good, but the warranty needs to be activated first….so I have to go back next week. He again was really flirty and told me to call him some time and that he hangs out often in my area. Ok…so not my thing…and definitely not my thing with a guy I am dealing with professionally. I am trying to keep good boundaries while maintaining a cordial attitude. Any suggestions on how to handle the next time?
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Post by sunrisequest on Feb 16, 2024 0:44:05 GMT
I mean, unless he outwardly asks you out, at which point you then have the opportunity to just let him down gently, then I guess it's a case of just moving through the interactions with him in a pleasant, but not over-friendly way. Not volunteering extra information about yourself, keeping it professional, not giving signs you're interested... but I doubt it's something you need to verbally shut down unless he asks you a question that requires an answer? And if he does ask you out in a direct way, you've got two options... keep turning down each request politely with vague excuses till he gets the message, or go for the direct approach and let him know you're not dating or don't sense that you've got that much in common.
I'm normally all for the direct approach to communication, especially in relationships, but in this scenario, I'd probably go for the vague route, and spare his ego...
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Post by mrob on Feb 16, 2024 6:15:31 GMT
I’d be taking the flirtiness with a grain of salt. I imagine he’s working on commission, so maybe flirty is part of his repertoire to clinch the deal with women? Anyone who sells vehicles knows that even in a couple situation, it’s the woman you sell the vehicle to.
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