Post by fixingmylife on Jan 12, 2018 14:33:42 GMT
I've been with my wife for 7 years, married for a year and a half. I just found out she is a DA after we went to one marriage counseling session. I did some research and WOW. It feels so fucking great to understand now WHY she has done what she has for so many years. She always said she wanted to go to therapy, and always said she knew she had issues from her past, so I can't wait to see where this goes.
Are there any tips you can give me as her husband to help? I realize now that maybe I can be too pushy to help her. I'm excited that I discovered this, but obviously she doesn't want to hear about it from me because she is triggered and so far pushed away right now.
I'm hopeful for us, but also just want her to come to terms. She had ALOT of struggle and turmoil in her past, and she is aware if it.
Anyway, from other DAs, what makes you feel better from a significant other? What can I do?
Are there any tips you can give me as her husband to help? I realize now that maybe I can be too pushy to help her. I'm excited that I discovered this, but obviously she doesn't want to hear about it from me because she is triggered and so far pushed away right now.
I'm hopeful for us, but also just want her to come to terms. She had ALOT of struggle and turmoil in her past, and she is aware if it.
Anyway, from other DAs, what makes you feel better from a significant other? What can I do?
. Might I suggest you actually pose those questions to your wife? The reason is that there is a whole lot more to a person then just his or her attachment style. There are certainly general things you can learn on these boards..however..it is good to learn specifically from her if you can. For instance, finding out her love language if you don't know that yet is very helpful. If she ihas an acts of service love language, then she will appreciate when you do things for her. . Good luck.