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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2018 1:59:26 GMT
This article addresses some points about narcissists and their targets. It’s probably more helpful if you can recognize yourself as a target, because even if your partner is a narcissist, they only have the power you give them and changing your own patterns is the only way out. I have read a lot of threads that seem to indicate deeper issues than avoidance, and i have seen dependent partner reactions equally destructive. To themselves. the thing is, dependency on a narcissist destroys YOU, not the narcissist. The only one getting hurt in this dynamic is you, but there’s a way out! I know because i found it and am free from that mess and it opens a whole new world. www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-need-to-talk-about-narcissists-20-mindset-shifts-to-help-you-stop-crazy-making-yourself/ |
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Post by kristyrose on Jan 29, 2018 20:40:14 GMT
This was a good read. It also makes me a bit sad because I see so much, way too much of my ex in this article. But, I also see how much I've gained from this painful experience, so will try to focus on that instead. Deep... breaths...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 29, 2018 20:45:35 GMT
the truth will set you free and i have experienced the hurt but also some freedom. hugs!
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Post by sam on Jan 31, 2018 13:45:48 GMT
This was a good read. It also makes me a bit sad because I see so much, way too much of my ex in this article. But, I also see how much I've gained from this painful experience, so will try to focus on that instead. Deep... breaths... I feel the same, I just read the article and it’s definitely my ex. It’s been a painful journey but I have learnt a lot about myself and also gained. |
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Post by sam on Jan 31, 2018 13:46:26 GMT
This article addresses some points about narcissists and their targets. It’s probably more helpful if you can recognize yourself as a target, because even if your partner is a narcissist, they only have the power you give them and changing your own patterns is the only way out. I have read a lot of threads that seem to indicate deeper issues than avoidance, and i have seen dependent partner reactions equally destructive. To themselves. the thing is, dependency on a narcissist destroys YOU, not the narcissist. The only one getting hurt in this dynamic is you, but there’s a way out! I know because i found it and am free from that mess and it opens a whole new world. www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-need-to-talk-about-narcissists-20-mindset-shifts-to-help-you-stop-crazy-making-yourself/Thank you for putting the article up, it’s definitely my ex! |
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Post by damascena on Feb 15, 2018 13:16:16 GMT
It seems that a number of these DAs we've discussed here are actually narcissists?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 15, 2018 13:52:34 GMT
It seems that a number of these DAs we've discussed here are actually narcissists? I think "DA" has sort of been the catchall label for anyone people see as unavailable, a lot of mixups with DA, FA, narcissists and other issues. I don't know if the labels really matter, but personality disorders and other pathologies are really different from attachment styles. |
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Post by goldilocks on Feb 15, 2018 20:29:27 GMT
Keep in mind that about a quarter of the population is DA.
I see people coming in here trying to put the DA label on an ex for displaying extreme outlier behavior. A label that applies to a large segment of the population is not going to explain that.
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Post by damascena on Feb 16, 2018 15:46:07 GMT
Keep in mind that about a quarter of the population is DA. I see people coming in here trying to put the DA label on an ex for displaying extreme outlier behavior. A label that applies to a large segment of the population is not going to explain that. Apparently ALL Narcissists are Avoidant but not all Avoidants are Narcissists. It seems a number of us here have been with Narcissists. |
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Post by Jaeger on Feb 16, 2018 16:02:46 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2018 18:03:49 GMT
i was with an anxious narcissist, i refer to him as The Strangler. When i tried to leave he.... strangled me. he was definitely anxiously attached with a side of narcissism spectrum. all narcissists are emotionally unavailable, might be a better way to put it. |
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Post by damascena on Feb 16, 2018 20:38:26 GMT
i was with an anxious narcissist, i refer to him as The Strangler. When i tried to leave he.... strangled me. he was definitely anxiously attached with a side of narcissism spectrum. all narcissists are emotionally unavailable, might be a better way to put it. When I say Narcissist, I am talking about people who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. These people have no empathy at all and are always Avoidant |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2018 21:07:44 GMT
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Post by Jaeger on Feb 16, 2018 22:37:41 GMT
Literally the article I posted the link to a ways up 😄 |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2018 22:39:06 GMT
Literally the article I posted the link to a ways up 😄 haha sorry your article doesn’t matter , mine does for obvious reasons. Sincerely, God |
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