Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2018 23:19:23 GMT
i deleted my online dating profile, having determined that the online venue / system is really stressful for me.
Before i did, i read over my summary and with the awareness i have now, i realize it was So Avoidant. OMG.
Not in an insulting way, by any means. i just wrote a lot about my independence and appreciation for the finer things in life like not cohabiting and whatnot. i thought it would be good to have all that out there as it’s important.
But, i didn’t say anything about the aspects of relationship that i really am looking for. The things i have to offer.
It was basically a big wall and while i did have a lot of men doing their best to scale it, i shot them all down but one. Because, really, i resist this. I know this.
i think i have a lot to offer the right partner. i really do.
A client of mine signed up for a professional matchmaking service and she didn’t use it because she fell in love with her boss and now they live together . ha. so she actually offered to see if she could transfer it to me. i am open to that, to try dating that way. It’s a commitment to a process that i think will be very stressful for me in some ways but i could probably get through it with support. i will know if that is an option in a couple weeks.
So, it includes meeting with a psychologist and stuff to evaluate me and my relationship needs and goals.
And i guess i have to write up something about me. If i write up something like i had on my dating profile they will laugh at me. jk but it wasn’t good. i was sincere and nice but totally unapproachable. i’m a little amused and also a little embarrassed :/
so, when the time comes, i might need some feedback on this kind of stuff. i know the service helps with it all but they won’t be in my living room when i’ve turned into a reptile wondering what i was even thinking.
So. i’m not a big fan of dating and not sure when i will try again. but i am thinking of these things!
I am curious how other people present themselves and how their attachment style affects that.
Before i did, i read over my summary and with the awareness i have now, i realize it was So Avoidant. OMG.
Not in an insulting way, by any means. i just wrote a lot about my independence and appreciation for the finer things in life like not cohabiting and whatnot. i thought it would be good to have all that out there as it’s important.
But, i didn’t say anything about the aspects of relationship that i really am looking for. The things i have to offer.
It was basically a big wall and while i did have a lot of men doing their best to scale it, i shot them all down but one. Because, really, i resist this. I know this.
i think i have a lot to offer the right partner. i really do.
A client of mine signed up for a professional matchmaking service and she didn’t use it because she fell in love with her boss and now they live together . ha. so she actually offered to see if she could transfer it to me. i am open to that, to try dating that way. It’s a commitment to a process that i think will be very stressful for me in some ways but i could probably get through it with support. i will know if that is an option in a couple weeks.
So, it includes meeting with a psychologist and stuff to evaluate me and my relationship needs and goals.
And i guess i have to write up something about me. If i write up something like i had on my dating profile they will laugh at me. jk but it wasn’t good. i was sincere and nice but totally unapproachable. i’m a little amused and also a little embarrassed :/
so, when the time comes, i might need some feedback on this kind of stuff. i know the service helps with it all but they won’t be in my living room when i’ve turned into a reptile wondering what i was even thinking.
So. i’m not a big fan of dating and not sure when i will try again. but i am thinking of these things!
I am curious how other people present themselves and how their attachment style affects that.
