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I met with Guy 1(J) today and he is exactly what he said he is. I have never met a person so direct in my life which is great because I can be the same way. As it turns out, lots of red flags about his personality, he said so much about himself and he lacks self awareness in that respect. At least he wasn't trying to impress me or pretend to be something that he isn't. Really pay attention on the first date and ask questions people, sit back and listen, it will save a lot of headache. And even if I had a romantic interest in him it wouldn't be an ideal situation for me because his life is too busy, hectic and stressful, lots of traveling and hard work, he is all about money and status, I don't feel he is in the right place for a serious and committed partnership.

Guy 4(T) Finally suggested at the end of this morning conversation "lets have tea sometime, x" I replied 'sounds good" (without the x, he usually sends me x and I did too once or twice), I used to be more enthusiastic then that but although I don't think he is a player or a bad guy, I feel I am on the shelve and I am not thrilled.

He was very direct and straight to the point which I admire but because he had no intention to impress me, he lay down everything without knowing how aware I am.

* Talked about himself A LOT. He would from time to time ask a question about me but wouldn't really listen to my answer or what I wanted to say, not interested at all, just waited for a word or for a chance to turn the conversation back to him. It was ALL about him and his life.

* A lot of talking about status, money and how successful he is. Already commented down on my lifestyle even though he knew exactly what I do for a living and my social class.

* Talked about 3 of his past relationships, trashed 2 of the women and said clearly that the other one he just used for sex and discarded her when she wanted more than just sex. But said she was kind, sweet and beautiful however not good enough for him (she was his cleaning lady!)

* No friends.

* Extremely busy.

* Devoted to his dog in an unhealthy way.

* Watchs porn and sees nothing wrong with it (no judgement but I don't like it).

* Explained how manipulative he has to be in his career in order to be as successful as he is.

* Spent the whole date complaining about one of the waitress even though she wasn't serving us anymore, (apparently she wasn't helpful to him, I wasn't there yet so didn't see anything)...he couldn't let go...to the point where he called the manager and spent 5 minutes complaining about the waitress.

The weird thing is: Although I am not attracted to him at all, I really like his straight forwardness and I could see (or I believe that I could see) that deep inside there is a hurt soul with so many armours and masks. I wouldn't mind being friends with him and I said this to him. Friendship only with nothing attached. I felt his loneliness and I am lonely too. He accepted but he is so extremely busy that I don't see it happening.