Why developing self love is critical....

Part of what drives the insecurity in AP is that, as a reaction to not getting our needs met by our caregivers, we developed this "hope" that surely someone "else" would love us the way our caregiver could not...the problem is....if we never developed love for ourselves..then we are not giving a person a choice to love us our not....it becomes a needy demand of the other person.  It also means we are prone to repeat a pattern by which our needs are not met and we feel as if we are not good enough just as we are..that we must earn love.  Self love allows for providing to ourselves what our caregivers were unable to give.  There are lots of online resources to help.  You are worthy and wonderful and you deserved to be loved for who you are...give that gift to yourself.  Hugs.