Difference between breadcrumbing, ghosting, and gone for go

Difference between breadcrumbing, ghosting, and gone for go Jun 11, 2018 5:24:54 GMT

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Post by flic on Jun 11, 2018 5:24:54 GMT

Jun 10, 2018 23:05:26 GMT mrob said:

Thanks aislingt . At least something good is coming out of this.

I don’t think so. My ideal would be two people that live their own lives, and come together and share a life partnership, if that makes any sense. I don’t want multiple partners, but I need space as well. To be there when the going gets rough, enjoy the good times, but to have our own as well. This was described to me as “only getting the good parts”. I don’t think so. It’s a matter of how much sacrifice I’m willing to make.

Question for you on this mrob - I feel like 'when the going gets rough' is often the time where some people (probably APs) find it hard to give the space that is needed by by their partner. For example, say an AP woman has a baby, and suddenly has to rely on her partner a lot more, and loses a lot of her sense of self. I've also seen threads on this forum where people have said an Avoidant has run away when an APs parent has died and they were looking for more support, or life has just gotten hard generally.

I respect that people need different amounts of space and independence and that it runs deep. But there is also a level on which because life isn't smooth, there will be times where one partner needs to depend more on the other. You do say 'be there when the going gets rough' but I'm just interested as to whether being able to sacrifice your space in these times is a hard thing for you to do, or because the situation warrants it, you're able to give it up as needed.