Post by exhausteddecay on Jun 23, 2018 1:13:04 GMT
Me: *sent photo Wednesday 11:50 PM*
Him: no response
Him: *sent photo Friday 4:49 PM*
Him: "Hey" *sent Friday 4:49 PM*
Me: "Hey" *sent Friday 6:12 PM*
Him: "What's up? You've been quiet this week"
Me: "Listening to Underoath. How have I been quiet?"
Him: I haven't heard from you much"
Me: Just alot has been going on. What's up with you?"
Him: It's a two way street you know. It can't be all on me to contact you"
sidenote: i have been actively pursuing this person for over a year and contact him too frequently, i have been told to give him more space
Me: "I figured I'd see you on Saturday. (we have plans) I also sent a pic Wednesday night and got no response. What do you need from me, and I'm asking this in a friendly tone."
Him: "Effort. I will make no effort if you're not gonna. Don't play with me"
two minutes went by
Him: "Obviously something more important has your attention. Good bye"
Me: "What does playing a friend mean?"
Him: "I said goodbye"
Me: "You just gave us no space to discuss a very easily fixed issue. I'd appreciate not being intentionally triggered in my weak spots. When you have some space and settle down you're welcome to text me and talk."
sidenote: I have explained to him numerous times that when someone tells me "goodbye" it triggers my abandonment issues.
Him: "Us?"
Me: "us as in you and me"
Him: "sure"
Me: "I am more than open to listen but I will not tolerate being attacked out of nowhere. You said goodbye now go take some space."
Him: *sends a peace sign*
Me: "When you calm down take a look at your behavior and see that you're sabotaging. I'm not going to contact you because you're pushing me away but you're welcome to talk to me if you change your mind. Have a good evening."
what in the world just happened? please help
Him: no response
Him: *sent photo Friday 4:49 PM*
Him: "Hey" *sent Friday 4:49 PM*
Me: "Hey" *sent Friday 6:12 PM*
Him: "What's up? You've been quiet this week"
Me: "Listening to Underoath. How have I been quiet?"
Him: I haven't heard from you much"
Me: Just alot has been going on. What's up with you?"
Him: It's a two way street you know. It can't be all on me to contact you"
sidenote: i have been actively pursuing this person for over a year and contact him too frequently, i have been told to give him more space
Me: "I figured I'd see you on Saturday. (we have plans) I also sent a pic Wednesday night and got no response. What do you need from me, and I'm asking this in a friendly tone."
Him: "Effort. I will make no effort if you're not gonna. Don't play with me"
two minutes went by
Him: "Obviously something more important has your attention. Good bye"
Me: "What does playing a friend mean?"
Him: "I said goodbye"
Me: "You just gave us no space to discuss a very easily fixed issue. I'd appreciate not being intentionally triggered in my weak spots. When you have some space and settle down you're welcome to text me and talk."
sidenote: I have explained to him numerous times that when someone tells me "goodbye" it triggers my abandonment issues.
Him: "Us?"
Me: "us as in you and me"
Him: "sure"
Me: "I am more than open to listen but I will not tolerate being attacked out of nowhere. You said goodbye now go take some space."
Him: *sends a peace sign*
Me: "When you calm down take a look at your behavior and see that you're sabotaging. I'm not going to contact you because you're pushing me away but you're welcome to talk to me if you change your mind. Have a good evening."
what in the world just happened? please help
