Post by anne12 on Jul 15, 2018 11:06:54 GMT
Set yourself free - Forgive yourself and others:
During your journey in the universe of Love, you as well as some of those you meet will come to step someone over the toes. We all make mistakes. We say stupid things and hurt other people. Do not join to stick to the mistakes of the past. Do not use the time to beat yourself or others in the head. Clean up and move on.
You may have had problems and hard times in your upbringing or in the moment - others might have dealt with or have treated you badly? Does it allow you to continue their bad style? No! Set your limits/boundaries and let the sins of the past, be in the past (others and yours), if you can: Forgive for your own sake - so that you will be free!
Many people perceive it to forgive, whether it's other or themselves, like this: "It was ok, what you did!". Of course, you do not want if others have exceeded your limits and have done something, that you think is anything but okay. But consider this for a moment:
If you say it was okay, that the other did as he / she did - it was not at all something to forgive!
To forgive is about letting go of things, that can not be changed in the past and still set your limits.
For example, you can say (loudly or just to yourself):
"I forgive you for what you did. Pease with it. From now on - you must respect my limits/boundaries, otherwise you will not be in my life".
Or: "I forgive myself, for what I did. Peace with it. And from here I believe in myself ".
It's not what you've been exposed to, but how much you've come to "leave" yourself, which is harmful.
If there is much anger, you can forgive at the thought plan, and unfortunately it is not very helpfull. It is not always, that you can feel the anger. It will nevertheless hold onto the past if it has a certain size and is detained. So if you can not forgive, you can count on, that you will still
be angry, even if you do not feel it. Perhaps you feel more sad. Anger is organic and will always occur, when your limits are exceeded.
The anger is basically a portion of energy to "survive" - to say Yes and No. The anger however, has gotten a bad reputation in our culture and is often suppressed and pushed away. Since it is also a part of your vitality, it's a good idea, if you take care of it like pure gold!!!!
Remember this now:
Do not dump your anger on others - nor yourself! Use (more) anger meditation -
(Leonard Jacobsens anger meditation: jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/984/anger-meditation).
Or find other creative ways to express anger, pain, the soreness, the feeling of failure, the feeling of repentance, loneliness, I-is-not-good-feeling, etc. - without loading those feelings onto others.
Your past is past and can not be changed - but you can change your emotional reaction to what happend in the past!
Activity:
Forgiveness in a 4-step process:
If you use some undisturbed time on this process, it will set you and your energy free.
· Stand by the body's natural response to the situation
o Feel the feelings
o Accept the body's response on the instinctive level. What would it do or say, if there was free choices, and there was no consequence. In most cases they are reactions, that you should not really experience.
But for a moment, you can imagine - and most importantly: feel in the body that you do:
· Stand by your feelings
o Allow yourself to feel the feelings, all involved
o Give them permission to be here, now they are here. Tell them in yourself: "It's ok right now. You have the right to be here, sorry, or X! "
o Express these feelings without throwing them in the face of anyone, possibly using anger meditation
Activity:
· Stand by yourself:
o Express that this, under no circumstances, will happen again.Say for example: "I am valuable and must be treated as such. I will under no circumstances help you to do this to me again! "and possibly" if that happens again, you're thrown out of my living room / world / friendship! "
The activities helps you standing by yourself - get you into your power. This is where you can experience a condition to be free and release the other person.
· Forgive yourself / the other person.
Say loud: "I forgive you for ... ....!" It is to relieve the past and free up your energy / power to live right now!
During your journey in the universe of Love, you as well as some of those you meet will come to step someone over the toes. We all make mistakes. We say stupid things and hurt other people. Do not join to stick to the mistakes of the past. Do not use the time to beat yourself or others in the head. Clean up and move on.
You may have had problems and hard times in your upbringing or in the moment - others might have dealt with or have treated you badly? Does it allow you to continue their bad style? No! Set your limits/boundaries and let the sins of the past, be in the past (others and yours), if you can: Forgive for your own sake - so that you will be free!
Many people perceive it to forgive, whether it's other or themselves, like this: "It was ok, what you did!". Of course, you do not want if others have exceeded your limits and have done something, that you think is anything but okay. But consider this for a moment:
If you say it was okay, that the other did as he / she did - it was not at all something to forgive!
To forgive is about letting go of things, that can not be changed in the past and still set your limits.
For example, you can say (loudly or just to yourself):
"I forgive you for what you did. Pease with it. From now on - you must respect my limits/boundaries, otherwise you will not be in my life".
Or: "I forgive myself, for what I did. Peace with it. And from here I believe in myself ".
It's not what you've been exposed to, but how much you've come to "leave" yourself, which is harmful.
If there is much anger, you can forgive at the thought plan, and unfortunately it is not very helpfull. It is not always, that you can feel the anger. It will nevertheless hold onto the past if it has a certain size and is detained. So if you can not forgive, you can count on, that you will still
be angry, even if you do not feel it. Perhaps you feel more sad. Anger is organic and will always occur, when your limits are exceeded.
The anger is basically a portion of energy to "survive" - to say Yes and No. The anger however, has gotten a bad reputation in our culture and is often suppressed and pushed away. Since it is also a part of your vitality, it's a good idea, if you take care of it like pure gold!!!!
Remember this now:
Do not dump your anger on others - nor yourself! Use (more) anger meditation -
(Leonard Jacobsens anger meditation: jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/984/anger-meditation).
Or find other creative ways to express anger, pain, the soreness, the feeling of failure, the feeling of repentance, loneliness, I-is-not-good-feeling, etc. - without loading those feelings onto others.
Your past is past and can not be changed - but you can change your emotional reaction to what happend in the past!
Activity:
Forgiveness in a 4-step process:
If you use some undisturbed time on this process, it will set you and your energy free.
· Stand by the body's natural response to the situation
o Feel the feelings
o Accept the body's response on the instinctive level. What would it do or say, if there was free choices, and there was no consequence. In most cases they are reactions, that you should not really experience.
But for a moment, you can imagine - and most importantly: feel in the body that you do:
· Stand by your feelings
o Allow yourself to feel the feelings, all involved
o Give them permission to be here, now they are here. Tell them in yourself: "It's ok right now. You have the right to be here, sorry, or X! "
o Express these feelings without throwing them in the face of anyone, possibly using anger meditation
Activity:
· Stand by yourself:
o Express that this, under no circumstances, will happen again.Say for example: "I am valuable and must be treated as such. I will under no circumstances help you to do this to me again! "and possibly" if that happens again, you're thrown out of my living room / world / friendship! "
The activities helps you standing by yourself - get you into your power. This is where you can experience a condition to be free and release the other person.
· Forgive yourself / the other person.
Say loud: "I forgive you for ... ....!" It is to relieve the past and free up your energy / power to live right now!