Ambiguity

The anxious-preoccupied will tend to be more sensitive to ambiguity and often assume the worst, while more secure people are more likely to assume the best -- giving the situation the less hreatening interpretation. Dismissives are already muted when it comes to sensitivity to others and tend to be unaware. It's obviously more stressful to imagine downsides and have trouble with ambiguity if you are insecure about your own value to others. A high self-esteem whether from real security or the dismissive's veneer of security lets you sail serenely onward into what looks to the anxious like a possible storm. I'm not personally a fan of ambiguous situations, but I've learned to directly address them when there's an easy way to do so -- like explaining what's unclear to me and asking for guidance or reassurance. The trouble with many anxious-preoccupied responses often comes from being unwilling to risk asking, then reaching a point where they are closer to demanding reassurance than requesting.

Very cool. I am a fearful avoidant and I find ambiguity very soothing, actually, simply because it can be left for interpretation, and can have a different meaning to each person. I am actually very skilled at deciphering ambiguous situations as well as introducing ambiguity, when someone sees something purely black and white. There is a lot of complexity to life and humans and certainly - psychology. I find that ambiguity lets me enjoy life a bit more without having to have all the answers always figured out. It's like a suspended existence, and that not everything needs to have an outcome. It's forgiving in some ways.