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Post by luckyclover on Oct 1, 2018 18:56:06 GMT
Hello,
I am new here and so grateful to find this dedicated forum to get some support specific to our attachment styles. I am AP and my significant other is DA. I really could use some feedback as to if what I am going through is typical, and suggestions for coping (or support, in the event it is time for me to throw in the towel). Do I post under the DA thread or AP, or maybe just here to start?
Thanks so much!
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Post by ocarina on Oct 1, 2018 19:57:08 GMT
Hello Luckyclover and welcome - glad you have joined us! There is certainly lots of support here - and prepare to be challenged too - in the kindest possible way!
Given you tend towards AP attachment wise I think I would be inclined to post your story on the AP forum - this will encourage others who have been through similar stories to read and comment - and also perhaps encourage you to look at your own part in the relationship. There's a tendency to want to fix and diagnose our partners but dealing with ourselves first is far more helpful.
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Post by goldilocks on Oct 1, 2018 21:29:16 GMT
I agree with Ocarina!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2018 21:52:39 GMT
what kind of support do you mean?
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Post by luckyclover on Oct 1, 2018 23:50:59 GMT
Thank you everyone, I will do that!
Juniper ... I am not sure. Support to make the changes that I need to my own behavior and for myself, support if I decide that the relationship I am in is truly not working perhaps? I don't quite know yet, to be honest.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2018 0:39:51 GMT
Thank you everyone, I will do that! Juniper ... I am not sure. Support to make the changes that I need to my own behavior and for myself, support if I decide that the relationship I am in is truly not working perhaps? I don't quite know yet, to be honest. i agree, the AP section would be a great place to start. if you want to deal with sensitive issues and limit posting to others who share your own attachment style and share similar struggles, there is the option of the Support for AP section. People do post questions about a DA partner in the DA forum and typically get directed to their own attachment style issues and participation in a dynamic, so it's definitely not off limits. but it rarely results in the kind of feedback the OP is looking for. Welcome! |
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