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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 12:41:52 GMT
i've seen a lot of this on the board lately, and maybe it's helpful to point it out, maybe not. but of course if anxious posters can post about their rescue love and how they selflessly endure their inadequate partners, then of course one single avoidant can call it out with a helpful post about martyrdom. i get that we are all doing the best we can but a blind spot is a blind spot and an internet forum might be a good place to learn about it. take what you want and leave the rest; it's just a post. www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fearless-you/201307/are-you-relationship-martyr%3famp
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Post by leavethelighton on Oct 14, 2018 23:56:30 GMT
I think #4 is an important one. It's difficult to see one's own role in a situation when one is a lot of pain, but I think that is a particularly important one in getting past a lot of plateaus.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2018 0:22:51 GMT
I think #4 is an important one. It's difficult to see one's own role in a situation when one is a lot of pain, but I think that is a particularly important one in getting past a lot of plateaus. really such a good article!!
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Post by tnr9 on Oct 15, 2018 1:18:39 GMT
I just want to say that number 4 applies even for a person who, like me, tends to stay stuck in self blame. 4 provides empowerment by asking what can I do differently next time versus swirl in what I perceive I did wrong.
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