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Post by lilos on Nov 21, 2018 2:20:16 GMT
So I am not anywhere near an expert at this forum but given some recent concerns about who posts where- I wanted to clear something up for myself:
These “support rooms”- when I read the description underneath it says for AP/FA/DA working on themselves and those who support them.
What I take away from that is that it’s for a specific style to post in, and others who respond are doing so in a way that supports the poster- not that the people interacting in the room need to be OF that style. Do I misread that? Or is that considered inappropriate?
I want to be conscientious of the rules of conduct here, especially given the recent fall outs.
Clarification is appreciated!
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Post by ocarina on Nov 21, 2018 13:56:12 GMT
I have always thought the wording was ambiguous - and results in people new to the forums posting inappropriately on these support forums and getting shot down.
The forum started without these and they were added at the request of people of different relationship styles requiring a place where only people of these style post. I think the wording should be clearer - maybe " For XXX working on themselves and those of the same attachment style who support them" would be more clear?
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Post by tnr9 on Nov 21, 2018 14:25:03 GMT
So I am not anywhere near an expert at this forum but given some recent concerns about who posts where- I wanted to clear something up for myself: These “support rooms”- when I read the description underneath it says for AP/FA/DA working on themselves and those who support them. What I take away from that is that it’s for a specific style to post in, and others who respond are doing so in a way that supports the poster- not that the people interacting in the room need to be OF that style. Do I misread that? Or is that considered inappropriate? I want to be conscientious of the rules of conduct here, especially given the recent fall outs. Clarification is appreciated! I was here when the forums were created...specifically for DAs who wanted a space all their own so that they could work on themselves without a barage of questions from other types. The "support" I offer is just to like something....I don't post because I know that is a boundary violation. The "and the people who support them" has caused confusion before and as such, some DAs felt that even that forum was not truly their own. As a point of rule....I respect that thesupport forums are attachment style specific..they are a safe harbor away from feedback from other attachment types perspectives...and it allows for sharing with others who share in your attachment. |
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Post by lilos on Nov 21, 2018 15:19:07 GMT
So I am not anywhere near an expert at this forum but given some recent concerns about who posts where- I wanted to clear something up for myself: These “support rooms”- when I read the description underneath it says for AP/FA/DA working on themselves and those who support them. What I take away from that is that it’s for a specific style to post in, and others who respond are doing so in a way that supports the poster- not that the people interacting in the room need to be OF that style. Do I misread that? Or is that considered inappropriate? I want to be conscientious of the rules of conduct here, especially given the recent fall outs. Clarification is appreciated! I was here when the forums were created...specifically for DAs who wanted a space all their own so that they could work on themselves without a barage of questions from other types. The "support" I offer is just to like something....I don't post because I know that is a boundary violation. The "and the people who support them" has caused confusion before and as such, some DAs felt that even that forum was not truly their own. As a point of rule....I respect that thesupport forums are attachment style specific..they are a safe harbor away from feedback from other attachment types perspectives...and it allows for sharing with others who share in your attachment. It makes sense- i can totally understand someone wanting that kind of space. The description suggests otherwise. Thanks for clearing that up! |
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