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Post by sandahl on Aug 27, 2017 19:57:43 GMT
Jasleesa- I'm so sorry u experience such strong withdrawal:( I get like that but not to that extreme or for that long but I do cry for months and those more extreme reactions usually last about 2 weeks. I still ha e an a he in my chest for a long time tho. But I do not at all think that is how emotionally independent healthy people react to a break up. In fact that's what got me to really look at myself. I knew my reaction was disproportionate to what had happened. If I'm a whole person then my whole life shouldn't unravel because someone chose a different path from me. To me it was actually the feeling that I was brainwashed that made me think something wasn't right. I have never experienced that feeling before. There was a lot of gaslighting going on in our entire relationship, so it felt like my head exploded when I tried to put all the pieces together haha. But I think you're right! Your last sentence made me second guess my reaction. I think it was disproportionate. How are you right now? Are you in a good place?  |
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Post by sandahl on Aug 27, 2017 20:09:59 GMT
The reaction all of you are describing is withdrawal, not love. This is not normal but rather a very strong indication of dependency. Normal people do not have these kinds of reactions after breaking up with someone. Emotional dependency from a partner is extremely unattractive to an avoidant, even a securely attached person although they can tolerate it a bit more successfully than avoidant . Securely attached people like securely attached people. Most people run for the hills from dependent personality disorder and that is what all of you are describing. Stop blaming the avoidant, take responsibility for your own issues. Good luck and goodbye. Try getting some therapy, it could only help. Dependent personality disorder is treatable.
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Post by raco on Aug 28, 2017 4:58:29 GMT
The reaction all of you are describing is withdrawal, not love. This is not normal but rather a very strong indication of dependency. Normal people do not have these kinds of reactions after breaking up with someone. Emotional dependency from a partner is extremely unattractive to an avoidant, even a securely attached person although they can tolerate it a bit more successfully than avoidant . Securely attached people like securely attached people. Most people run for the hills from dependent personality disorder and that is what all of you are describing. Stop blaming the avoidant, take responsibility for your own issues. Good luck and goodbye. Try getting some therapy, it could only help. Dependent personality disorder is treatable. Short version: " I've never posted here, I come, I assert a diagnosis of Dependent Personality Disorder for all of you, nine different people, with no argument to back up my claim. Good luck and goodbye." |
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Post by serene13 on Aug 28, 2017 15:39:05 GMT
The reaction all of you are describing is withdrawal, not love. This is not normal but rather a very strong indication of dependency. Normal people do not have these kinds of reactions after breaking up with someone. Emotional dependency from a partner is extremely unattractive to an avoidant, even a securely attached person although they can tolerate it a bit more successfully than avoidant . Securely attached people like securely attached people. Most people run for the hills from dependent personality disorder and that is what all of you are describing. Stop blaming the avoidant, take responsibility for your own issues. Good luck and goodbye. Try getting some therapy, it could only help. Dependent personality disorder is treatable. Short version: " I've never posted here, I come, I assert a diagnosis of Dependent Personality Disorder for all of you, nine different people, with no argument to back up my claim. Good luck and goodbye." |
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Post by sandahl on Sept 7, 2017 6:40:39 GMT
Short version: " I've never posted here, I come, I assert a diagnosis of Dependent Personality Disorder for all of you, nine different people, with no argument to back up my claim. Good luck and goodbye." |
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Post by sandahl on Sept 7, 2017 6:41:13 GMT
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Post by sandahl on Sept 7, 2017 6:48:34 GMT
Sounds like I struck a nerve!!! Happy hunting chasing down those poor avoidants. HaHa. There are twelve step programs that help dependent personality disorder also. Seriously, you people are pathetic. Invest your time in therapy and medication and your lives might improve. Good luck with your lame replies.
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Post by cricket on Sept 7, 2017 13:03:39 GMT
Sounds like I struck a nerve!!! Happy hunting chasing down those poor avoidants. HaHa. There are twelve step programs that help dependent personality disorder also. Seriously, you people are pathetic. Invest your time in therapy and medication and your lives might improve. Good luck with your lame replies. You didn't say anything I didn't already know so I didn't feel the need to respond or engage. Good luck with your closed off defensive life 😊 |
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Post by sandahl on Sept 10, 2017 21:07:59 GMT
Codependent denial, dear...quit blaming other people/avoidants for your miserable lives. Accept responsibility for your neurotic behavior and your lives just Might improve though doubtful. Cheers!
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Post by cricket on Sept 11, 2017 0:05:25 GMT
Codependent denial, dear...quit blaming other people/avoidants for your miserable lives. Accept responsibility for your neurotic behavior and your lives just Might improve though doubtful. Cheers! I know what codependence is hunny. You have no idea who is taking responsibility here and who is not. Some people want to vent and that is part of the healing process. Believe me I blame no one for my circumstances. Maybe you are projecting. I hope you work that out. Wishing you good vibes. |
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Post by serene13 on Sept 11, 2017 0:52:06 GMT
Codependent denial, dear...quit blaming other people/avoidants for your miserable lives. Accept responsibility for your neurotic behavior and your lives just Might improve though doubtful. Cheers! I know what codependence is hunny. You have no idea who is taking responsibility here and who is not. Some people want to vent and that is part of the healing process. Believe me I blame no one for my circumstances. Maybe you are projecting. I hope you work that out. Wishing you good vibes. Cricket - at this point I think we are simply dealing with a troll  |
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