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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2019 4:12:24 GMT
See, I don't think it's necessarily a "gross sense of entitlement" to turn up. If you're in a position where the choices are sleeping rough, or take the chance of being turned away, I know what I'd do. He left when asked. He took a chance and it failed. He walked away. Also, the line that's been cropping up recently is "You're a human, not an attachment." My whole life is viewed through my lens of attachment. So, that's where I need to start every day, otherwise I can unintentionally project my "attachment" as "humanity" when it is clearly not the case. I see breaking no contact, showing up at OP's home, with suitcases as a gross sense of entitlement. Especially after having been abusive. It's a big boundary violation, regardless of if he was in the position to sleep rough. Whose problem is that, and why does it entitle one to show up uninvited and unannounced, to the door of a person he was abusive to? We can disagree. |
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Post by alexandra on Mar 11, 2019 5:35:20 GMT
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Post by 8675309 on Mar 11, 2019 11:50:52 GMT
mrob I totally understand your point and I understand the lens you have to look through since you are self aware but we are still human and make mistakes, dumb choices, feel bad for others, etc. I think so much is put on the attachment and forget we are just people. @nullified I see entitlement too, he had some nerve showing up IMO... I would have slept in my car before I ever did what he did, he was only thinking of himself.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2019 14:11:26 GMT
mrob I totally understand your point and I understand the lens you have to look through since you are self aware but we are still human and make mistakes, dumb choices, feel bad for others, etc. I think so much is put on the attachment and forget we are just people. @nullified I see entitlement too, he had some nerve showing up IMO... I would have slept in my car before I ever did what he did, he was only thinking of himself. Yep, that's it right there. Only thinking of himself. That's the way entitlement works. |
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Post by mrob on Mar 11, 2019 15:12:53 GMT
I disagree. Entitlement works on the supplication of another person. He tried his luck. He failed. Blatantly Inconsiderate, yes. Entitlement, I don’t think so. Either way, his pride copped a huge kick in the teeth.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2019 16:06:35 GMT
I disagree. Entitlement works on the supplication of another person. He tried his luck. He failed. Blatantly Inconsiderate, yes. Entitlement, I don’t think so. Either way, his pride copped a huge kick in the teeth. Even seeing the blatant inconsideration, you'd take the chance of being turned away like this in order to not have to handle your sleeping situation? Just seek out the (SUBSTANTIAL) services of an ex to try to meet your needs? |
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