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Post by hannah99 on Jun 29, 2019 12:39:47 GMT
I keep feeling the urge to contact my ex. I think to myself all kind of things, maybe he doesn't feel be can reach out, maybe he'll be pleased to hear from me, maybe he needs me but won't say...
We've been out if contact for 6 weeks.
Part of me thinks I need to contact him to get that rejection that proves my hopes wrong.
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mamut
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Post by mamut on Jun 29, 2019 16:45:19 GMT
hannah99 oh I know the feeling, but trust me, even if you send a text now just to confirm that he still doesn't want back, you'll get the urge again eventually. It's a vicious cycle, and you can break it by not sending anything. That's why it's so hard. I promise, it gets better with time. Try to think that the more you don't contact him, the faster the pain will subside. Hang in there! And keep posting when you feel those urges!
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Post by stuckinamoment on Jun 30, 2019 21:19:27 GMT
you can read my last two posts on the thread I have going. My x did reply to me, but its nothing really new... no new information really... just the same old avoidant. Mine cut me off because he had no depth of emotions was handling a sick family member etc. so now its basically that family member passed away so to me that is it for any sort of thoughts of friendship at all for us. and he even put hes busy with work.. which again cuts off anything. he didnt ask how I was... so for me it was not at all what I had hoped for or what he had said last time we talked. Im not even sure I will reply because even if I do he wont and its just right back to where we were with him ignoring me. Im not sure if you struggle with the fact they were not like this at the start? thats where I find myself very stuck and my therapist reminds me to deal in the present. I have empathy for his losses, and with any other friend I would have sent something right away but I cant with him.
I would not suggest reaching out at six weeks as it is way to soon... Im almost four months since we went on the date that ended it all... great time out and then total collapse... I had no clue he was hiding so much he was dealing with. Keep posting here and eventually it will fade.. the need to reach out to get a rejection. I know if I reached out and received what I just did at six weeks I would have been right back at crying and being depressed.
Keep working on yourself.
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