migi
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Post by migi on Aug 9, 2019 21:46:49 GMT
Hi everyone, For two years I used to talk with a FA. We would also go out together times to times. There was a cycle repeating itself every 3months. We would go out together,I would make my intentions clear then he would dissappear. And then he would come back again by mocking me or smth similar. Last time I was the last to write him, he didn't reply and I decided to stop writing to him in 6 months now. It was kind of easy since I moved from my job, where we would work together and I was not in touch with him. Then I changed again my job and coincidently we are again working on the same offices, seeing each other from time to time. He would do little things to get my attention as always but this time I would act distant not really caring for this "signs of interest" from him. But today is his birthday and I am constantly thinking of him. To sum up, he was an almost which I told him that I like him and he responded that we would meet each other eventually. And an almos who is constantly playing mind games with me and making me confuse, if he wants me or not. It is gis bday todat and I want to wish him and ask him to meet. I don't know whats the whole point of this but I want to do that. Can you tell me what would be best to write to him and not scare him. Meanwhile I should wish him and also ask him to meet. The decision is made. Is here any FA who would tell me what he would want to here in this case?
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Post by alexandra on Aug 10, 2019 0:55:45 GMT
migi, if you've decided, just keep it short and direct. "Happy birthday! Hope you enjoy the day 😄" But, just know, if you keep restarting the cycle and it's not his decision to show up (initiate the contact) and be ready for a real relationship with you, he hasn't demonstrated any attachment healing or growth so your cycle together will continue to just repeat. Even if you think you've changed, the dynamic really won't be different unless he's also done the self work. Is that something you want in your life at this time?
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