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Post by amber on Dec 30, 2019 5:13:11 GMT
Sounds like this is his pattern with women. You could theoretically be the phantom ex one day too...this is what FA do, and it’s very painful. But just becusse he is with her doesn’t mean it’s a good functional relationship. We can’t assume. She won’t change him, no one can but him. I feel your pain xx
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Post by serenity on Dec 30, 2019 5:54:09 GMT
This is plain cruel. The relationship itself is confusing and heart breaking enough, and then to be triangulated and left for exes or whoever is deep toxic behaviour. Its sad and terrible, but people like this need to be cut out of your life. The effect on your self esteem, the stress, and the way it all becomes normalized if you stay involved is so bad for your mental and physical health. I've seen wonderful women reduced to becoming the equivalent of harem members rotated in and out for years because of this dynamic. You can do so much better. The pain of walking away is devastating (for a little while), but you must if you want healing love and goodness in your life. There are men and friends who will give that to you.
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Post by mezzer on Dec 30, 2019 8:00:13 GMT
I feel for you, I know what it’s like to feel bonded to someone, when they have lavished attention on you. It hurts so much when they withdraw. You did the right thing to walk away and know that you will get better. He is the problem here not you, and anyone capable of standing you up like that is definitely not worth your time.
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