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Post by tnr9 on Apr 4, 2020 12:30:48 GMT
Im noticing that a lot of the posts here are describing romantic relationships, difficulty with partners/ex partners etc. For sure my anxious/preoccupied style does effect me when im in a relationship, (im single at the moment) but I struggle most with non-romantic relationships/friendships outside of this. Usually mother figures, show me nurture etc. I was wondering if anyone would share their experiences of this if anyone has? I have had therapy and know what I have to do manage the behaviour and I have been doing really well, but the emotions pain/hurt etc are still there and I usually find it helpful to hear others experiences, feel less alone I suppose. Thanks Can you be a bit more specific? Is it mother figures who act differently from your mom and you are having a hard time with that or mother figures who remind you of your mom? |
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Post by serenity on Apr 13, 2020 9:39:31 GMT
I can understand. I have two very AP step sisters, who watched their mother die in front of them when they were still toddlers. My mother married their Dad, and I always tried to help with their anxiety. My closest step sister who I shared a room with, my age, had a lot of phobias. She needed us to put a heavy objects against the door at night so she could feel safe. She preferred to have the light on at night, but I talked her out of it. She constantly needed assurance, which I always gave. She grew up and surrounded herself with women she was very loyal to.
She did okay with loving women friends so much so long as she chose good women. And she mostly did. I think women like a lot of closeness so its not bad to seek it out in friendship.
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