Breakthrough??

So I think I may have had a bit of a breakthrough. I've realised that my mother is dismissive.

She was a single mum and had addiction issues so I always thought that was a factor in my being ap because I was always having to take on more responsibility than I should have but I've only just realised the dismissive part is probably more the thing that is affecting me .

I can remember her hugging me or saying I love you only a handful of times and that was only when someone had died or one of us was in hospital etc .

I've been watching her with her partner and she is so critical . She complains he doesnt do anything around the house yet when he does it's " wrong ". We were out the front carrying shopping in and she was angry at him for not coming out to help even though he had no idea we were even there .

I remember about age 13 i started to think mum had become really mean . I always put it down to me being a teenager but now i think about it she may have been doing that to me as well . Dont get me wrong she is a lovely person who would do anything for anyone but she has had a rough life .

My big thing in my relationship now is he is very critical of me so it seems to me like a huge realisation. Maybe I am extra sensitive to it as well .

I'm not really sure what to do now with the info but its something interesting to think about .