Post by gaynxious on Sept 13, 2017 5:02:00 GMT
Since learning about attachment theory I have realized that as an AP I have flocked to other APs as friends. My core college group of friends was all AP with one avoidant that dated two of the APs at different points and would have been unlikely to have been accepted and remained in the group without those relationships.
Is this typical and does it present any problems? I.e. Your anxious behaviors are validated because you surround yourself with friends likely to view things the way that you do, may echo your negative narrative, and may not provide you with secure examples.
Or is it generally normal as most people are drawn to those similar to themselves and someone that desires a lot of intimacy in friend ship should be friends with those that want that as well?
I deff have had a few close secures and at least one best friend/now roommate is deff DA. The DA friendship has been tough and less fulfilling at times but understanding attachment theory has deff helped understand why and accept the situation.
Do DAs similarly prefer DA friends or is it like romantic relationships where the friendship never materializes because no one is reaching out?
Or is my case just one of many 'normal' patterns where some AP prefer DA friends due to the same reasons they attracted to them for romantic partners? And vice versa for DAs?
Is this typical and does it present any problems? I.e. Your anxious behaviors are validated because you surround yourself with friends likely to view things the way that you do, may echo your negative narrative, and may not provide you with secure examples.
Or is it generally normal as most people are drawn to those similar to themselves and someone that desires a lot of intimacy in friend ship should be friends with those that want that as well?
I deff have had a few close secures and at least one best friend/now roommate is deff DA. The DA friendship has been tough and less fulfilling at times but understanding attachment theory has deff helped understand why and accept the situation.
Do DAs similarly prefer DA friends or is it like romantic relationships where the friendship never materializes because no one is reaching out?
Or is my case just one of many 'normal' patterns where some AP prefer DA friends due to the same reasons they attracted to them for romantic partners? And vice versa for DAs?