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Post by anne12 on Jul 11, 2020 10:48:52 GMT
Do you remember the clitoris?
If you want to achieve a clitoral orgasm during intercourse then ...
REMEMBER to stimulate the clitoris.
Most women get the easiest clitoral orgasm by touching themselves
probably because it is the easiest way to get and it is the place on our body with the most nerve endings.
A climax from our clitoris is also easily recognizable because there is a tension and a redemption.
Facts about the clitoris.
The sole purpose of the clitoris is pleasure.
The clitoris is connected to 8000 nerve endings. Hence the place on the body that provides the most pleasure.
The clitoral head is only the tip of the iceberg, the clitoris is much larger than what the eye sees.
It was not until 1998 that Australian urologist Helen O’Connell succeeded in mapping the anatomy of the clitoris. She did so using MRI scans of a number of women's lower extremities.
Clitoral head as you can see if you pull the small hood that covers it away varies greatly in size from woman to woman.
A clitoral orgasm lasts between 10 to 50 sec.
The clitoris is a swollen body that grows during arousal, as the man's penis.
In order for you to achieve a clitoral orgasm, your clitoris must be stimulated.
Through my work as a sexologist I have met many women who are frustrated that they do not achieve clitoral orgasm through penetration sex, they feel wrong and ashamed because they feel there is something wrong with them. Some
of these women say that it is very easy for them to come when they are with themselves, but during sex it is different.
In these cases, the blockage can be in two places.
1.You can not relax when you are with a man
2.You do not touch your clitoris during sex in the same way as when you are with yourself.
No matter if it is No. 1 or 2 that is the challenge, then there are some boundaries that need to be re moved here. New ways of making love must be opened up for the woman to learn to come. But if you overcome these challenges, you can always learn to get orgasm with a man.
A clitoral orgasm occurs ONLY through stimulation of the clitoris, so intercourse without direct stimulation of the clitoris will often not lead to a clitoral orgasm.
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Post by anne12 on Jul 11, 2020 15:16:31 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Jul 11, 2020 15:21:25 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Jul 11, 2020 15:29:43 GMT
Laila Martin and Esther Perel m.youtube.com/watch?v=O0Yzr8np0s4Beautyfull interview Esther Perel and I intimately discuss how to keep passion, attraction and desire alive in relationships. |
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Post by anne12 on Jul 11, 2020 15:32:41 GMT
Jason Gaddis and Ellen Bader The problem with saying I need ...my nerveussystem to relax to be able to have sex. Ellen Bader gives Jason advise ... m.youtube.com/watch?v=BgzWQH7_XDY |
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Post by anne12 on Jul 11, 2020 18:38:14 GMT
Can you say “I am horny!”… Without hesitation, doubt or the slightest resistance?
We need to take our light home where we are not yet completely free. In some rooms in the castle, the door flies up effortlessly when we touch the handle. And then there are the spaces, where there is more resistance.
What is in the shadows is, what we have shut down to feel or feel a little anxious about . Or embarrassed, shy ect about.
Lust. You know yourself best how you feel about that word. Whether you get excited, curious, annoyed or provoked.
“Some have grown up in a time when sexuality was still taboo, or in a home where one has never seen father and mother naked, or where sex has not been talked about and sexual desire has been shamed. Maybe it has never been said directly, but has just been in the air that sex was dirty or something you should at least keep as a secret.
A child who explores his own body and is met with disgust, scolding, or shame will no doubt take his healthy, natural sexuality and put it in the shade/shadow. A child who has grown up with a very liberated and promiscuous parent, can go into the opposite direction, and overcompensate by being extra buttoned up and cranky. People who have been sexually abused ect are at greater risk of putting their sexuality in the corner of shame.
Teenage girls with great sexual appetites are more often than teenage boys shamed, done wrong or called cheap. It is still a little more legitimate for a man to be horny, than it is for a woman. We may have learned to put a lid on our sexuality, lust and horniness in childhood or adolescence, but sexuality can also be overshadowed over time or in special periods. Maybe we have had free, happy access to our sexuality once, but may have shut down after a crisis in the relationship or after a period of stress, depression, illness, or childbirth. There can be many reasons why you turn off or turn down your sexuality, but you can - right now - choose to take your light home again in this part of your life
There can be many reasons why, you turn off or turn down your sexuality, but you can - right now - choose to take your light home again in this area.
Many women want to acknowledge their lust, but not their horniness.
It's too ugly, animalistic, vulgar.
But you can not get an orgasm without being horny. If we are to be able to enjoy and want to experience ecstasy, sexual liberation and all-consuming satisfaction, we must - also - embrace and accommodate the lust as a healthy and natural part of us.
” Think about your sexuality. How free do you have to be sexually?
Are you allowed to feel it?
How much desire can you have?
Is it OK. to want sex but not to be horny?
Do you set boundaries yourself - or are there things you do not do because you think you should not?
Do you need to take some light home in this area ?
A shadow worker
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Post by anne12 on Jul 11, 2020 18:57:51 GMT
The rigid caracter structure. Our body can show what happend to us and where we got stuck in our development as a child. If you've got some of the rigid character structure which developed around 4-6 years old, you can have a split between your heart and your sex. You've got rejected by the opposite sex parent. You are either able to have sex with or you can love your partner. But it is not possible to combine the two together at the same time. Either one is good at opening one's heart or one is good at being sexual and seductive. Both gives problem in relationships. This can only be healed in a relationship. (The fifth caracter structure) According to a attatchment/SE teacher the best way to work with this is in a committed relationship combined with other kinds of techniques.. m.youtube.com/watch?v=uT1patJfSh8Do the yang breath where you breathe through your penis/genitals/uterous and up and out through your heart |
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Post by anne12 on Jul 11, 2020 19:34:52 GMT
As a woman your sexdrive varies throughout your cycle
menstruating:
It differs from woman to woman whether she experiences higher or lower sex drive during her period. And some experience it especially just before menstruation. It is believed that this is because the uterine contractions that trigger menstruation stimulate the nerves in the area so that one becomes more turned on.
If you want to have sex during your period, I can recommend trying a ‘period sponge’
Opening:
In the opening phase (the time up to ovulation) it can be a time when you feel an increasing sex drive as estrogen rises towards ovulation. So this may be a good time to take the initiative with your partner, because it's easier for you to feel spontaneous desire and get turned on.
ovulating:
During your ovulation, you may find that your sex drive is high. This is where women are most fertile, so the body is so smart that it turns up the hormones estrogen and testosterone now, which gives you a greater desire for sex. So this is a perfect time to take advantage of it and seduce your partner if you have one. However, be aware that you are very fertile now, so make sure you have effective contraception if you do not want to get pregnant.
nesting:
In the time after ovulation (the nesting phase), it is a little different how women experience their sex drive. The desire for sex may well decrease a little right after ovulation, because both estrogen and testosterone decrease. But it will often return when estrogen rises again after a few days. You are also probably more sensitive and sensitive due to progesterone, which is rising now, so there may be a need for more intimacy and dialogue with your partner so that you do not exceed your limits.
Just about ovulation is the time when you as a woman are most fertile. So of course nature has designed you so smartly that you spontaneously feel like having sex and you get even more pleasure out of sex right now.
There are also some researchers who believe that orgasms may help you get pregnant.
When you have an orgasm, there are some muscular contractions around the uterus, and it is believed that it can help to 'suck' the semen up. They call it the Up-Suck effect (very original).
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Post by anne12 on Jul 12, 2020 18:42:00 GMT
Breast massage (given by a partner) Drive her to extraordinary pleasure and light her up from head to toe with this 12-step breast massage. m.youtube.com/watch?v=AQeygqvJZXUBreast massage given by yourself as a woman: (it's healthy): The ultimate breast care massage technique to incorporate into your self-care routine today. IT helps you to open your heart, increases your level of oxytocin, and can give you bigger breasts among other things.... m.youtube.com/watch?v=hSQKujQ_r5g |
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Post by anne12 on Jul 23, 2020 6:07:56 GMT
youtu.be/bgd3m-x46JUJam is a proposal for rethinking how we have sex. Jam proposes an alternate framework for sexual connection that comes directly from musical improvisation. According to this proposal, experience and pleasure are valued, partners are collaborators in unscripted journeys, and consent is ongoing and reciprocal, just like in any musical jam session.
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Post by anne12 on Jul 29, 2020 6:41:56 GMT
Too many people - both women and men - give away their power sexually, by having to use something from the outside to be able to activate and get in touch with their lust, horniness and arousal.
We need either porn, vibrators or each other to achieve total satisfaction.
We tell ourselves…: "You have to turn me on. You do not turn me on. This does not turn me on. This turns me on."
When you take your sexual power back to yourself, you turn yourself on.
I see this time and time again in clients, who can not make love to themselves because they are bored or they feel it is strange. Or singles who say "I have no partner", as if that is a criteria for a good sex life.
In the relationship, it can show as if we are entitled to be satisfied by each other and when that does not happen, we walk around feeling angry or feeling rejected. But that does not have to be the case. We do not lack anything, we are perfect as we are.
You can become your own best lover.
To love oneself is the foundation of all sexuality. It's one of the best ways to love yourself.
Not the fast masturbation that chases an orgasm. Both men and women can tend to chase the orgasm, men often through the use of porn, where they completely forget to feel their own body and penis and women's use of vibrators that gives them the expectation, that the orgasm should come within two minutes . Masturbation turns into a quick ejaculation, something that should not take too long and this will reflect our sex life.
There's nothing wrong with either porn or vibrators, but it's the way we use it, that's the problem. We need to want the conscious masturbation, the one that increases our sexual energy and where the whole body is at play.
Conscious lovemaking with ourselves is where we give ourselves time to caress our whole body, use our breathing, feel and be present in the now. We allow our horniness to take over and celebrate our lust and sexuality.
I often get the question, what is the best way to masturbate?
There is no right way to mastubate. We are all different and we have our own preferences. Some like it hard and fast others like it soft and sensual.
Who are you as a sexual human being. What are you longing for and can you give it to yourself ?
A sexologist/couples therapist
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Post by anne12 on Jul 30, 2020 6:44:06 GMT
How to penetrate a woman properly m.youtube.com/watch?v=casWDRxMUyYThere is an art and craft to the act of penetrating a woman. It includes accounting for the state of her heart and mind, which will in turn affect the sexual functioning of her physical body. Unfortunately this is not conveyed to us during our standard sex education classes, and most people of all gender identifications are left to educate themselves on how to have “great” sex. There are 5 main keys to ensuring that your sexual penetration (be it with penis, fingers or inanimate objects), is not only exquisitely pleasurable, but also healing- and not reinforcing old trauma. When a female body is ready to be penetrated the vagina will literally suck you right in. When a female body is NOT ready to be penetrated, there will be resistance. This resistance can be felt anywhere along the vaginal canal- from right at the introitus (vaginal opening), to the g-spot area, a-spot area, or up near the cervix. You can feel this resistance with whatever you are using to penetrate the yoni. When penetrating a woman before the vagina is ready to yield it can cause trauma- emotional and physical- to be stored in the delicate tissue of the vaginal opening. Sensations of numbness, pain, and particularly irritation at the vaginal introitus are indications of being penetrated before the body/mind/spirit is fully on board and ready to yield. Unfortunately this experience of pain and irritation is quite common for many yoni owners, due to the lack of education regarding female bodies and how to prime them for optimal pleasure. The video shares 5 Keys for Penetrating a Female Body in the most juicy, deliciously pleasurable way possible. Please note- though the focus in this video is mainly on penises entering the vagina, the same approaches apply to fingers, tongues, or inanimate objects. |
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Post by anne12 on Jul 31, 2020 12:41:50 GMT
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Post by anne12 on Jul 31, 2020 12:47:07 GMT
m.youtube.com/watch?v=f_3IE4uOyh8Losing Your Erection During Sex? 2 Reasons Your Penis Isn't Broken! Learn concrete Tantric methods to help you control male ejaculation, heal premature ejaculation and/or erectile dysfunction, and time tested techniques for becoming a fully multi-orgasmic man who is in full control of his ejaculatory response. If the strength of your erection fluctuates during sex this is not necessarily a sign of sexual dysfunction. In some cases it is actually indicative of HEALTHY sexual function. Find out 2 very normal and natural reasons your erection may fluctuate during sexual play, and what you can do about it.
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Post by anne12 on Aug 2, 2020 15:39:56 GMT
Come as you are Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all. The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal. Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm. Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible. And Emily Nagoski can prove it. m.youtube.com/watch?v=HILY0wWBlBM |
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