Post by anne12 on Sept 23, 2020 8:42:36 GMT
Justice:
Are you a person who is looking/seeking justise in your life ?
If so this can be tracker back to your early childhood when you were between 2-5 years old.
The "sad" thing is that:
There is no justice in life. Don't try to find justice in life. Its an illusion. If you try to find justice, you will be unhappy in your life.
The sence of justice
is developed when the child is between 2-4/5 years old.
The child learn to choose, seperate good and bad, law and not law, power, powerlessness, duality, black an white.
Justice:
This is not fair. The word justice
is developed around law. It's an abstract word. The law makes it happen.
The child develops in this period of life:
If I do this to you, you will do this to me.
Magical thinking.
if I'm good to you, then you are good to me.
If I do you a favour, you will do me a favour .
If I give you a 🍅, you will give me a 🍅 back.
Every time you choose something you have to let go of something else.
If you choose the little ice-cream, then you can't have the big ice cream.
You will have trouble making choises in your life, if you are stuck around this period in your early life.
It's hard to give something without the expatation of getting something back. They have learned that they should give and give and give.
If it develops early around 2/3 you can have a tendencie to get sad and depressed. If it happens later (3/5) you will project it out to the world and push it on to other people - the world is so unfair.
You need to learn to see the consequences of your choises.
You think:
No matter what I do, something bad will happen.
You have tried to be a good person for so long.
Every time you make a choise something bad happens and its not fair because you have tried to be NICE.
You will see it as something that happens TO you, not because of different life surcomstances.
If you live your life from a position of getting justice,
you can end up as a bitter old man/woman: "Life is so unfair" and you can become depressed
Sadness, disapointment, bitterness, anger.
How to work with this in therapy with a person seeking justice in the world.
Mental, bodymovements, words:
If you choose this, what is it that you can not get ?
Ex: offering the client a cup of tea, water or coffee and make the client choose between the
cup of tea, cup of coffee, glass of water.
Working with the mental level together with the bodymo vement.
Letting the glas, the cup of tea that you didn't choose go. Do the movement with your hands and let it go. (Doing the physical action together with the verbal action)
And then open the arms and hands.
The expatation of getting something back can be unconscious. They haven't learned to put it into words.
They don't know that they have this expatation.
As soon as the person makes a choise, the person can have a tendencie to focus on what they lost and not focus on their goal. In this way they can have trouble moving forward in life.
Loosing and letting go of things, opportunities, people in life can make the person very sad and it can hurt deep down in the persons 💓.
Practicing choosing between smal things in life/daily life can be a good start otherwise it can be too overwhelming.
Are you a person who is looking/seeking justise in your life ?
If so this can be tracker back to your early childhood when you were between 2-5 years old.
The "sad" thing is that:
There is no justice in life. Don't try to find justice in life. Its an illusion. If you try to find justice, you will be unhappy in your life.
The sence of justice
is developed when the child is between 2-4/5 years old.
The child learn to choose, seperate good and bad, law and not law, power, powerlessness, duality, black an white.
Justice:
This is not fair. The word justice
is developed around law. It's an abstract word. The law makes it happen.
The child develops in this period of life:
If I do this to you, you will do this to me.
Magical thinking.
if I'm good to you, then you are good to me.
If I do you a favour, you will do me a favour .
If I give you a 🍅, you will give me a 🍅 back.
Every time you choose something you have to let go of something else.
If you choose the little ice-cream, then you can't have the big ice cream.
You will have trouble making choises in your life, if you are stuck around this period in your early life.
It's hard to give something without the expatation of getting something back. They have learned that they should give and give and give.
If it develops early around 2/3 you can have a tendencie to get sad and depressed. If it happens later (3/5) you will project it out to the world and push it on to other people - the world is so unfair.
You need to learn to see the consequences of your choises.
You think:
No matter what I do, something bad will happen.
You have tried to be a good person for so long.
Every time you make a choise something bad happens and its not fair because you have tried to be NICE.
You will see it as something that happens TO you, not because of different life surcomstances.
If you live your life from a position of getting justice,
you can end up as a bitter old man/woman: "Life is so unfair" and you can become depressed
Sadness, disapointment, bitterness, anger.
How to work with this in therapy with a person seeking justice in the world.
Mental, bodymovements, words:
If you choose this, what is it that you can not get ?
Ex: offering the client a cup of tea, water or coffee and make the client choose between the
cup of tea, cup of coffee, glass of water.
Working with the mental level together with the bodymo vement.
Letting the glas, the cup of tea that you didn't choose go. Do the movement with your hands and let it go. (Doing the physical action together with the verbal action)
And then open the arms and hands.
The expatation of getting something back can be unconscious. They haven't learned to put it into words.
They don't know that they have this expatation.
As soon as the person makes a choise, the person can have a tendencie to focus on what they lost and not focus on their goal. In this way they can have trouble moving forward in life.
Loosing and letting go of things, opportunities, people in life can make the person very sad and it can hurt deep down in the persons 💓.
Practicing choosing between smal things in life/daily life can be a good start otherwise it can be too overwhelming.