Post by seeking on Dec 12, 2020 11:53:26 GMT
Anyone remember this movie - particularly how things went in the end? Thoughts on attachment styles?
I just watched it the other night, so it's still fresh in my mind. Some characteristics
They had a fight and she threw a blow dryer at him.
She took off on a 747 and he didn't follow her.
When they saw each other again, it was "love"
She was ready to leave again despite her clear interest - like one foot out the door again, she looked scared.
He pursued her.
He didn't know she wanted him to follow her (suggests he would have, had he known).
He pursues her even though he is about to get married
He doesn't end things with the woman to be with her
He isn't terribly overt - more reading her signals.
She leaves for London, and he goes ahead of her and meets her when she arrives home (he's already at her house, lol)
She is still shut down, but he kind of tells her to stop being so brave and pushes past this a little (This is the first time, normally he treads carefully and reads her cues and takes them literally) this is more him pushing past her ambivalence.
The first kiss is all blissful and ecstatic.
The movie was pretty triggery for me. My ex is a toxic narc. And I rekindled with him (we have a kid) many times.
Our daughter is pretty traumatized by the whole thing yet, at 11, STILL wants us to return back together (it wouldn't happen in a million years at this point)
He's with someone else - has a child with someone else.
She hates the someone and still wants us together.
I always told her dad and I didn't work together
And now, because of this stupid movie, she gets to see that you can throw a blowdryer at someone and that's funny and then years later return back to them and be madly in love. And that dad can ditch his girlfriend.
Ugh.
Not helpful.
Anyway, thought on these character attachment styles?
I think so so many movies glorify toxic relationships - not saying this one *was* - but just reminds me that movies and TV were where I learned a lot about "romance"
I just watched it the other night, so it's still fresh in my mind. Some characteristics
They had a fight and she threw a blow dryer at him.
She took off on a 747 and he didn't follow her.
When they saw each other again, it was "love"
She was ready to leave again despite her clear interest - like one foot out the door again, she looked scared.
He pursued her.
He didn't know she wanted him to follow her (suggests he would have, had he known).
He pursues her even though he is about to get married
He doesn't end things with the woman to be with her
He isn't terribly overt - more reading her signals.
She leaves for London, and he goes ahead of her and meets her when she arrives home (he's already at her house, lol)
She is still shut down, but he kind of tells her to stop being so brave and pushes past this a little (This is the first time, normally he treads carefully and reads her cues and takes them literally) this is more him pushing past her ambivalence.
The first kiss is all blissful and ecstatic.
The movie was pretty triggery for me. My ex is a toxic narc. And I rekindled with him (we have a kid) many times.
Our daughter is pretty traumatized by the whole thing yet, at 11, STILL wants us to return back together (it wouldn't happen in a million years at this point)
He's with someone else - has a child with someone else.
She hates the someone and still wants us together.
I always told her dad and I didn't work together
And now, because of this stupid movie, she gets to see that you can throw a blowdryer at someone and that's funny and then years later return back to them and be madly in love. And that dad can ditch his girlfriend.
Ugh.
Not helpful.
Anyway, thought on these character attachment styles?
I think so so many movies glorify toxic relationships - not saying this one *was* - but just reminds me that movies and TV were where I learned a lot about "romance"