Post by seeking on Jan 4, 2021 13:26:13 GMT
Annie posted in another thread
We use the first 1,5-2 years havning a lot of sex in our relationship, we are meant to reproduce ourselves. We are high on dopamine and other chemicals.
Then we get bonded together by oxytocin, we sit on the couch together the next two years and watch tv. This period is meant to take care of our offspring. Around 4 years in, the oxytocin fades, and then we have to learn how to love eachother for real.
Helen Fishers studies shows, that a lot of people get divorsed around 4 years into the relationship. She explains this is tied to biological factors:
Divorce Tied to Biological Factors : Evidence Reveals a Pattern Throughout Human History
Patterns of divorce have remained surprisingly constant in almost every culture, suggesting that there may be a biological explanation for why people divorce.
Helen Fisher, an associate anthropologist at the American Museum of Natural History, said patterns she identified may have existed throughout much of human history, had acceptance of divorce been as high as it is today.
“Given the number of variations and cultural differences, it is amazing that there is any pattern at all,” Fisher said. Her findings were reported at a meeting of the American Anthropological Assn.
Fisher went through the archives of the United Nations’ demographic yearbooks to trace patterns of divorce in 58 countries--including Samoa, Egypt, Costa Rica, New Zealand, the Soviet Union and the United States. Records dated back to 1947.
There were three striking similarities among all cultures. Overall, women tended to divorce during their reproductive years (between 25 and 29), after being married for four years and bearing a single child. These properties of divorce, Fisher said, are unrelated to the rate, which fluctuates among societies.
“When you see similarities across totally unrelated cultures, you have to assume that there are biological factors involved,” Fisher said.
Designed For Divorce
She believes that the human brain may be slightly designed for divorce; that monogamy--bonding with one person for life--is a cultural and basically human phenomenon. She said that about 97% of mammals and 50% of birds are not monogamous. Instead, they mate and stay together long enough to produce offspring.
After looking at a number of species, Fisher began to make some intriguing, though arguable, connections. “It is possible that marriage evolved about 2 million years ago. About this time, humans walked erect. The changing body--the shrinking pelvis and expanding brain--made birth very difficult. Women had to bear very helpless, infantile babies.” Fisher suspects that monogamy may have evolved to raise these tiny babies.
Revealing Records
“But these bonds did not have to last for life, only long enough to get the child through infancy, which explains the four-year bonding period,” Fisher said. If the couple had another infant, the process would begin again, adding more years to the marriage.
Census records revealed that most people around the world--40%--divorce with no children; 35% with one dependent child; 19% with two; 6% with three; 2% with four; and fewer than 1% with six or more dependent children.
Fisher suspects that the evolution of infatuation and attachment sprang from monogamy. These bonding behaviors, Fisher explained, have been linked to increases in certain brain chemicals.
We use the first 1,5-2 years havning a lot of sex in our relationship, we are meant to reproduce ourselves. We are high on dopamine and other chemicals.
Then we get bonded together by oxytocin, we sit on the couch together the next two years and watch tv. This period is meant to take care of our offspring. Around 4 years in, the oxytocin fades, and then we have to learn how to love eachother for real.
Helen Fishers studies shows, that a lot of people get divorsed around 4 years into the relationship. She explains this is tied to biological factors:
Divorce Tied to Biological Factors : Evidence Reveals a Pattern Throughout Human History
Patterns of divorce have remained surprisingly constant in almost every culture, suggesting that there may be a biological explanation for why people divorce.
Helen Fisher, an associate anthropologist at the American Museum of Natural History, said patterns she identified may have existed throughout much of human history, had acceptance of divorce been as high as it is today.
“Given the number of variations and cultural differences, it is amazing that there is any pattern at all,” Fisher said. Her findings were reported at a meeting of the American Anthropological Assn.
Fisher went through the archives of the United Nations’ demographic yearbooks to trace patterns of divorce in 58 countries--including Samoa, Egypt, Costa Rica, New Zealand, the Soviet Union and the United States. Records dated back to 1947.
There were three striking similarities among all cultures. Overall, women tended to divorce during their reproductive years (between 25 and 29), after being married for four years and bearing a single child. These properties of divorce, Fisher said, are unrelated to the rate, which fluctuates among societies.
“When you see similarities across totally unrelated cultures, you have to assume that there are biological factors involved,” Fisher said.
Designed For Divorce
She believes that the human brain may be slightly designed for divorce; that monogamy--bonding with one person for life--is a cultural and basically human phenomenon. She said that about 97% of mammals and 50% of birds are not monogamous. Instead, they mate and stay together long enough to produce offspring.
After looking at a number of species, Fisher began to make some intriguing, though arguable, connections. “It is possible that marriage evolved about 2 million years ago. About this time, humans walked erect. The changing body--the shrinking pelvis and expanding brain--made birth very difficult. Women had to bear very helpless, infantile babies.” Fisher suspects that monogamy may have evolved to raise these tiny babies.
Revealing Records
“But these bonds did not have to last for life, only long enough to get the child through infancy, which explains the four-year bonding period,” Fisher said. If the couple had another infant, the process would begin again, adding more years to the marriage.
Census records revealed that most people around the world--40%--divorce with no children; 35% with one dependent child; 19% with two; 6% with three; 2% with four; and fewer than 1% with six or more dependent children.
Fisher suspects that the evolution of infatuation and attachment sprang from monogamy. These bonding behaviors, Fisher explained, have been linked to increases in certain brain chemicals.
